My 50-yo brother is approaching gravely disabled and living in a discounted assisted living facility in his CA home town, due to a brain injury several years ago and subsequent dementia-like symptoms. APS helped find this place for him after he was kicked out of a sober living home (he was previously kicked out of two board and care homes). His temper is not a problem much anymore, but his short-term memory is shot and he cannot work through most basic problems.
This place is the most stable he has been in, but rumor has it they may be closing and selling the home. They are not otherwise trying to get rid of him, but are intimating he is becoming harder to manage due to his worsening symptoms.
I have been through hell trying to keep him stable and off the streets. I am terrified I will get a call that the place is closing and I'm supposed to come pick him up. Having already done this twice at great financial and emotional cost (especially to my immediate family), I cannot do this again, particularly now that I'm directing the lives of my parents, one of whom has Alzheimer's.
I try not to be cynical, but my impression over the years dealing with APS and similar agencies, is that my brother is a hard case nobody wants to deal with. In some instances I feel they have not been entirely forthright about what can be done for him and with him, if only because their staff and budgets are at breaking points.
APS recently suggested I be his conservator. I am already his durable POA.
When I finally move to another state later this summer, I do plan on researching local resources so we can move him closer to us for more family support.
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Another joining county has a whole village with cottages where the residents live with houseparents. The youngest ones go out to the regular school which of course puts a huge burden on the local school district while the older residents are kept busy with workshops
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Even if the building is being sold, it's sort of like "squatter's rights," and quite often the new owner is not allowed to evict.
Time to ask an attorney.
If the facility is closing, then, they'll issue notice of that. Plus, if he's been having problems, it might be a good time to evaluate if he needs a higher level of care.
If he has Tenncare, contact his MCO for assistance.