In 2008, Dad died. Mom let her son "take care of" her life savings. He lost his job and consequently all of Mom's money. Can I press charges or something so that she can get her money back?? He refuses to admit it's gone and he says he had nothing to do with it. I'm pretty angry about the whole thing. Mom lives with my family. He will not even send her a check for $50.00 each month. Is there anything Mom and I can do?
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First off, research if the case can still be prosecuted this long after the "crime". I use quotes because this may not have been a crime if he had consent to invest but then lost the money in contrast to outright stealing. I am going to say that this case has passed the statute of limitations for criminal charges.
Second, establish of the case can be brought as a civil suit. The statute of limitations for civil suits is often longer than with criminal and in some cases, the clock starts ticking when the act is discovered, not when it was committed.
Also, the burden of proof for civil cases is much, much lower and can also include unintentional acts.
I am going to suggest that you not get your hopes too high. I doubt that a case can still be brought at this late time and I also doubt that a case could be won based on what little information you have provided.
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Now, regarding her current situation and help for you, does your mother not receive SS checks every month? That should go toward her care. You can call the Area Agency on Aging and get information about what services are available, ie, rides to appointments, adult daycare, etc.
We live in Kansas. I am not quite sure how I ended up taking care of Mom. She had to sell her house quickly and at a loss (because her life savings was gone and she could no longer afford to live in her home) and had nowhere to go. So, we took her in.
Yes, I think it should be his job to take care of her. He will not answer the phone, will not return phone messages, and when I email him, his wife replies via email and calls me all kinds of rude names. (She's not very nice.)
I've printed the emails out and have shown them to Mom. She has never stood up for me before and I know she will not do so now.
I wrote to the newspaper "Money Manners." They wrote back very quickly and suggested I get legal assistance. I need someone to walk me through the process of pursuing legal action against him. I've never been in this kind of a situation before!
I'm starting a full-time job soon and I don't know how I'll transport her to appointments and exercise class while I'm at work.
I have to take the keys away soon. Should do it tonight, actually. Everything costs money and I don't know what to do. My friends don't have this experience yet, so no ideas there. Thank you!!!!!
If she was fine with him taking care of her funds, then why are YOU taking care of her?
Shouldn't that be his job?
An you prove that he coerced her in some way?