I have a problem. I'm a man and I take care of my wife's father and mother. They have dementia and my mother-in-law is in a wheelchair, so they needed someone stronger than my wife to care for them. The problem is that my wife's sisters come over and want to talk with me. I thought it was just visiting their parents, but they started leaving quickly when they heard one of them wanting to be brought from the bedroom to where we were. I chalked it up to not being able to stand to see their parents like that, but wanted to see how they were getting along. Then things started getting kinda weird, the one sister came over dressed in tight cloths and as we talked she kept starring at my pants close to me. She left when the mother called, I checked my zipper and every thing was closed, then the other sister came over. She takes over for me at night and we naturally talk at the changing of the gaurd, about how they were that day and she pulled her shirt off taking off her coat over her head. It was a button up coat and she just started laughing and didn't put her shirt back on. I kept my eyes turned. I just said, I'll see you tomorrow and drove home and a third comes over and wants to talk every day and has rubbed my leg. I am happy married. I think I must just be imaging things. I haven't said anything to my wife, but I'm kind of feeling uncomfortable with them. I don't want to be embarrassed by making a false accusation. I have to be around them when they come to visit there parents, but they do have kind of a history. I feel kind of trapped and self-conscious when they are here. I don't want to say anything to them. I try to stay away from them and not be rude, but I am just not sure what to do. I'm sure I must be mistaken gratitude for something else and the other stuff was just an accident with the shirt. Just not sure what to do kinda hard to even write for advice, but I need some.
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Someone who is being sexually harassed is more likely to focus on the need for it to stop, than dwell on the details of the incident.
But men are also vulnerable to inappropriate advances, harassment and abuse; this is true; and it is not funny; and I for one would like film and tv to stop treating it as a joke as they often do. So I'm going to treat this post as authentic. In spite of reservations that I can't quite decide if the OP is boasting, complaining or dreaming.
GTM if your sisters-in-law really are giving you grief then you need to stop being nice to them about it and tell them to cut it out. Don't smile, don't make excuses. Don't be rude, either. Ask them to leave, and mean it. If it continues, tell your wife what is happening and tell your SILs they will have to visit their mother only when your wife is present. You are are a married man, not a helpless adolescent, and you can see what's under your nose; this isn't "Mrs Robinson you're trying to seduce me! ... Aren't you..?"
Now, go home and tell your wife, you quit.
OP is happy with the input, though, thinks he should change his wardrobe and that way he won't be drawing unwanted attention. (He thinks he has to wear baggy clothes to avoid being a target? Either it's a troll - or - I've never come across anything quite like this.) Either way, AC advice to the rescue... 🙄
Google urban dictionary dot com, search "concha." There are other sources, too. It's apparently a well known insult in some Spanish-speaking countries, same as "c*nt" would be in English.
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