She thinks I am her dead sister June. Another girl with my name and finally her daughter. She thinks wrongly that I go out all night and come back in the morning. I get up with her at night and she knows I an there but then she says that June and I are taking turns leaving all night. I try to explain that June is dead and she knows that but thinks she back and sees her. I can't use logic to convince her I am not sneaking out at night. Not that it matters what she thinks. But she has angry outbursts and says all kind of untrue things. Sometimes she tells neighbors how I sneak off at night to have sex . I am 68 years old and I try to explain I really don't have to sneak around to have sex. I dont know why she can't see I an one 68 year old person. When she thinks I am my aunt she thinks I am 5 years older then her making me 89 years old. Is she just messing with my mind or what??,,
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To your Mom, you will always be her child. My parents who had very mild dementia never could realize that I was also a senior citizen. They thought I was still that 20 or 30 year old who could do anything. Waving my Medicare card and AAPR membership didn't even sink in.... [sigh].
As Sunny mentioned above, learn about this disease. Go to the bottom of this page to the blue section.... click on ALZHEIMER'S CARE.... and start reading all the excellent articles. These articles will give you more of an understanding what is going on.
I agree with Barb above, it is time for your Mom to have a higher level of care then us mere mortals can supply. She needs highly skilled care, as this is only going to get much worse. Sign your Mom up for Medicaid [which is different from Medicare] as Medicaid has a program where Mom can live in a nursing home and Medicaid will pay for everything she needs. Do it ASAP before changes might be made to Medicaid, hopefully Mom can be "grandfathered" in place.
In an elder home, or Assisted Living, your mom would have medication management, predictable routines and socialization.
It might be better for her than where she is now. Think about that.
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What I would keep in mind is that trying to convince your mother that she is misinformed and wrong about things, isn't likely to work and it might cause her more distress if you do this. I'd discuss it with her doctor or psychiatrist to get a plan in place. That way, you'll know up front what to say to her.