How can I care for an elderly man when I am elderly too?

I do every thing from yard work taking out trash to dishes cleaning and laundry and cooking. I have develope health problems, RA arthrist and other and can not do this anymore. He made a comment to some I was talking to someone about my daughter in Iowa offering us a place to live he said she can go if she wants but not me she said that's not fair to me he did not say any I had wrist replacement surgery wrist replacement my wrist is in a cast so I've been doing every thing one handed it has not been easy cant afford help all the family lives out of state.