When my Mom was in the hospital after a bad fall the doctor said she needs to have a caregiver there to help. So I scrambled and the Agency was able to send over 3 shifts of caregivers. It did NOT go smoothly. The caregivers were great, Mom was in a huge sniff. No amount of talking would appease her. It was her house and no strangers were going to come in.
By day 3 Mom [97] shooed out a caregiver, saying to the caregiver that her husband [my Dad, who was in his 90's] and her daughter [me, also a senior citizen] could take care of her. Earth to Mom, no we can't !!!!
You could try telling Mom that the caregiver is there for you, yourself, to help you with Mom's care. Whatever you do, Mom should be paying for this cost, not you.
If you're filling the role of caregiver your mom will probably never agree to hiring a caregiver. Maybe you need to step back so she realizes she needs outside help.
Your profile doesn't say if your mom has dementia. Getting your mom a caregiver without her consent could go several different ways depending on whether she has dementia or not but I'll assume she doesn't.
Your mom has the right to be informed about her own healthcare. I'm assuming that you want to get her a caregiver because you think she'll refuse a caregiver if you bring it up to her? She may need a caregiver but she has the right to refuse one. However, if you think she could benefit from a caregiver you can try to talk her into it. It may take several conversations.
If your mom refuses a caregiver and you bring one in anyway you're putting that caregiver in an uncomfortable situation. You may be hoping that once the caregiver gets there your mom will accept it and let the caregiver do her job but I know many people who will also slam the door on the caregiver's face or send them away after they've been there for 15 minutes.
Your best bet is to get your mom on board with having a caregiver. Tell your mom that the caregiver can give her a nice, hot, soapy shower with perfumed soaps. That the caregiver will massage her back and give her feet a good rub with silky lotion. Tell your mom that the caregiver will fix her a delicious lunch and then have lunch with her. But make sure you can fulfill these promises.
If your mom continues to refuse the idea then give up but don't go behind her back and hire on anyway.
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When my Mom was in the hospital after a bad fall the doctor said she needs to have a caregiver there to help. So I scrambled and the Agency was able to send over 3 shifts of caregivers. It did NOT go smoothly. The caregivers were great, Mom was in a huge sniff. No amount of talking would appease her. It was her house and no strangers were going to come in.
By day 3 Mom [97] shooed out a caregiver, saying to the caregiver that her husband [my Dad, who was in his 90's] and her daughter [me, also a senior citizen] could take care of her. Earth to Mom, no we can't !!!!
You could try telling Mom that the caregiver is there for you, yourself, to help you with Mom's care. Whatever you do, Mom should be paying for this cost, not you.
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Your mom has the right to be informed about her own healthcare. I'm assuming that you want to get her a caregiver because you think she'll refuse a caregiver if you bring it up to her? She may need a caregiver but she has the right to refuse one. However, if you think she could benefit from a caregiver you can try to talk her into it. It may take several conversations.
If your mom refuses a caregiver and you bring one in anyway you're putting that caregiver in an uncomfortable situation. You may be hoping that once the caregiver gets there your mom will accept it and let the caregiver do her job but I know many people who will also slam the door on the caregiver's face or send them away after they've been there for 15 minutes.
Your best bet is to get your mom on board with having a caregiver. Tell your mom that the caregiver can give her a nice, hot, soapy shower with perfumed soaps. That the caregiver will massage her back and give her feet a good rub with silky lotion. Tell your mom that the caregiver will fix her a delicious lunch and then have lunch with her. But make sure you can fulfill these promises.
If your mom continues to refuse the idea then give up but don't go behind her back and hire on anyway.