Hmm ... thanks for the additional information, but this still is not totally clear to me. I'll try to touch the points I see.
1) The only "they" that can change a court-appointed guardian is the court. Did you attend the original court guardianship hearing?
2) Where is your mother now? Memory care or assisted living? (Or is she in MC and you in ALF?) In either case, yes, they can ban a particular person. One reason might be that the resident has a court issued order of protection against the would-be visitor. In this case the guardian would most likely be the one who filed for this protection. Another would be that the resident has made it clear they don't want to see this person, and screams "Get away" if the person tries to visit. Or the facility can determine on its own that the visitor is disruptive or poses a risk of harm to the resident or any others in the facility.
If you are trying to get your mother to come live with you in Assisted Living I am afraid that is not going to happen. Assisted Living has rules and laws they have to abide by that restrict the kind of impairments they are allowed to care for. If your mother needs memory care, she most likely won't be qualified for a "regular" ALF.
Every Memory Care Unit that I know of supplies toilet paper and washclothes. If your mother did not have those items at a time you visited, they might have just run out and not been resupplied yet. Or, your mother may try flushing wash clothes down the toilet, or throwing them in a waste basket. She may have filled her dresser drawers.with toilet paper. And so the facility only supplies these items under supervision. These are just random examples, but I think you can understand that there may be circumstances in a memory care facility that the staff would need to keep a watchful eye on. And this is also one reason assisted living facilities cannot take everyone with dementia. Did you talk to staff about the missing toilet paper?
If you think you are unfairly being banned from visiting your mother, I think the first step is to seek the help of the ombudsman. That office will investigate complaints and try to determine a fair solution.
Yes I was sole caregiver poa but like your self perhaps looked on my mom more than myself and became I'll. The guardian and caretaker are private because social services won't care for her because she is worth more..assets.. Than 2,000 $ she is in memory care but begin stage I moved to senior assisted living 2 bed room why they aren't allowing me to visit my friend was giving me a ride got stopped my police had a body cam I though what a great idea used my phone at mom's facility to film their reaction to me I only was saying she deserves toilet paper and a washcloths. I was filming they threw me out
Yes I was sole caregiver poa but like your self perhaps looked on my mom more than myself and became I'll. The guardian and caretaker are private because social services won't care for her because she is worth more..assets.. Than 2,000 $ she is in memory care but begin stage I moved to senior assisted living 2 bed room why they aren't allowing me to visit my friend was giving me a ride got stopped my police had a body cam I though what a great idea used my phone at mom's facility to film their reaction to me I only was saying she deserves toilet paper and a washcloths. I was filming they threw me out
Sumview, this is on your profile; "Only-child, sole caregiver for mom, dad deceased, only child. I fell ill. Mom assigned court appointed guardian. Now better, I want back. They say no."
It would be helpful to know a bit more information, Sumview. *Why won't "they" give you back guardianship for your Mom? (Who are "they"?) *Does your Mom want you to be her guardian? *Has your illness left you incapacitated or disabled and they think you would not be able to fulfill your duties for her?
Let us know a bit more and someone might be able to suggest who you could contact.
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1) The only "they" that can change a court-appointed guardian is the court. Did you attend the original court guardianship hearing?
2) Where is your mother now? Memory care or assisted living? (Or is she in MC and you in ALF?) In either case, yes, they can ban a particular person. One reason might be that the resident has a court issued order of protection against the would-be visitor. In this case the guardian would most likely be the one who filed for this protection. Another would be that the resident has made it clear they don't want to see this person, and screams "Get away" if the person tries to visit. Or the facility can determine on its own that the visitor is disruptive or poses a risk of harm to the resident or any others in the facility.
If you are trying to get your mother to come live with you in Assisted Living I am afraid that is not going to happen. Assisted Living has rules and laws they have to abide by that restrict the kind of impairments they are allowed to care for. If your mother needs memory care, she most likely won't be qualified for a "regular" ALF.
Every Memory Care Unit that I know of supplies toilet paper and washclothes. If your mother did not have those items at a time you visited, they might have just run out and not been resupplied yet. Or, your mother may try flushing wash clothes down the toilet, or throwing them in a waste basket. She may have filled her dresser drawers.with toilet paper. And so the facility only supplies these items under supervision. These are just random examples, but I think you can understand that there may be circumstances in a memory care facility that the staff would need to keep a watchful eye on. And this is also one reason assisted living facilities cannot take everyone with dementia. Did you talk to staff about the missing toilet paper?
If you think you are unfairly being banned from visiting your mother, I think the first step is to seek the help of the ombudsman. That office will investigate complaints and try to determine a fair solution.
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"Only-child, sole caregiver for mom, dad deceased, only child. I fell ill. Mom assigned court appointed guardian. Now better, I want back. They say no."
It would be helpful to know a bit more information, Sumview.
*Why won't "they" give you back guardianship for your Mom? (Who are "they"?)
*Does your Mom want you to be her guardian?
*Has your illness left you incapacitated or disabled and they think you would not be able to fulfill your duties for her?
Let us know a bit more and someone might be able to suggest who you could contact.