Son cries poor and gets money from his mother!

To my mind, the money your sister and dependent brother received in bail-outs should be subtracted from their share of the inheritance.

My mother still lives on her own in family home. Both my brothers help her out regularly. I live 250 miles from her. I've gone over her monthly budget with her and her regular monthly pension incomes cover all living expenses, which also includes $600/mo discretionary spending money. Her investment income is paid annually on top of that (Canadian gov't required for RRIF accounts) approximately $12,000/yr (minimum required). Her average withdrawals/yr over the 21 years has been $16,000, although some of the years there have been substantial withdrawals - $24-28K. My other brother is executor and has been designated co-Power of Attorney with our sister, but that is not in effect. The will divides assets equally between us, 4 ways. I think most of the money trickled away month by month, but both my sister and dependent brother received significant bail-outs at times.

So, your mom has taken 336K out of her retirement funds over the course of 21 years? Are you sure that's not just a supplement to her retirement that she is spending on living expenses?

Can you and your other brother find out where that $336,000 has gone? How is the inheritance split between the three of you? Do you think your mother left more to the poor brother?

What kind of care do you provide your mother, and what do your brothers do for her?