Where is the line between disrespect and taking a stand?

My patient lives at home with her husband who is in good condition. A lady and I swap days at their home taking care of the wife (our patient). The husband is very fond of the other lady. Never rude or disrespectful. Never asks her to do anything and always asks when she’ll be there. He is nice to me, don’t get me wrong, but does things like scoot his plate and cup over to me after he’s done eating, pick up his glass and shake it at me (hinting he needs a refill) etc. What I’m wondering is, is this something I just need to grin and bear? Or is there a point where I can confront him about treating us differently? Also, one daughter has always paid us and done our schedule. Her husband is undergoing surgery so she has asked her sister (who usually isn’t involved in our pay/scheduling) to sign our checks because she’s going to spend all her time with her husband. I have always been paid for the time I have been scheduled, even if I didn’t stay the whole time. That’s what the daughter who pays me has always told me. There are several reasons but the main one she says, is because she knows when I’m here I devote all of my time with her mom. Anyways now that’s she’s not writing my checks for the next few weeks, the other daughter that is, insists that we call from the house phone when we arrive at our patients house and when we leave. And that’s how she’s going to keep up our time and pay us. She said she’s not paying me for the full 12 hours if I’m not here. Even though I’ve been here over a year and always been paid one way. The money that they use to pay us is coming from our patients account, not theirs. So the only difference is she’s signing the check. I’m doing the same work just as hard for the same patient. How is this allowed? Again, do I have to grin and bear it?