My mother, 86, dementia and in a memory care facility for a month, cusses and screams at me when I leave after a visit. She tells me never to come back and that she has always hated me. She does this to my two sisters when they leave too. What can we do to ease the drama when we leave?
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I either waited til she was asleep or slipped out the door without her seeing
A good facility will try to distract your loved one when you leave
Each person's journey with dementia is different but my mom to this day tells me she does not like her facility - she is now immobile and in the hospital for the third time since August
I think I will try to have the aides distract her and just leave without saying good-bye. I’ll see how it goes today.
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I’m sure it’s very frustrating for her to have you leave her behind and she isnt able to control her emotions.
If she is happy to see you when you arrive, try to focus on that when you think back over the visit. It’s a very hard time for your family. I’m sorry.
Above all, try to keep in mind that she has dementia, and thus is not capable of controlling what she says, and be grateful of times when she is more pleasant.
Grace + Peace,
Bob
I'm still working on my answers. LOL
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