We are not surprised as his last fall basically keeps him from being able to walk well or transfer without help. So the move will happen at the end of the month. Right now he is in SNF/rehab so is used to the small room which will be exactly the same. Anyone have words of wisdom or advice on the move? What to take? How to get rid of everything in his AL apartment? This is sad even though I knew it was inevitable and it is for the best. But I just hate it for him. And it makes me sad too.
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You can do this and either be honest with dad, or tell a fib and just say as soon as your better your apt will be waiting.
My mom in memory care and she still thinks at some point she will return to the house. It was sold and everything dumped or donated. It would break her heart so we just tell her house is being repaired and doctor will tell us when she can “go home”.
She is not unhappy where she is. She is content and well cared for and safe. But she would never want to really know she has lost her independence.
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Then when it was time for Dad to move from his IL apartment over to Assisted Living/Memory Care, I told Dad a "therapeutic fib" saying that Dad would save a lot of money moving to "next door" [I didn't tell him it was memory care]. I joked with him telling him that room size was like a college dorm, minus all the parties.
I always made sure Dad had space for all of his books, like 200 of them. Thankfully all the books fitted in his Memory Care room. The books were like a safe cocoon for Dad.
Thankfully my Dad was very easy going to a point where I think I could have pitched a tent in the backyard and he would have been happy there :)
I was going to suggest offering the things you cannot take to the other residents but Lisa's idea sounds better.
And, as Sunnygirl11 said - I was thinking you can ask before you move.
I had accumulated some items I no longer wanted [like a little statue of a Maltese dog] so this angel would clean it like new & pass them on to someone who needed just something as a gift - this is recycling at it's best - I felt good & so did the eventual recipient
Watch out for people's little box of meds - even TUMS can't be brought into NH - also no letter openers, scissors or really anything you'd wonder if you could take on a plane because other residents may get hold of them who are not as docile as your LO
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