Grandma is 96 with severe Alzheimer's disease, has been bedridden for the last couple years and thanks to my mom's care she does not have any bedsores, 2 days ago she suddenly started vomiting, and developed a fever.Was admitted to the hospital with a Dx of Fecaloma, pneumonia, and UTI. Her heart is also enlarged. She is not a candidate for surgery due to her age so the doctors are treating her non invasive for the fecaloma. My mom said she is not in ICU yet and today she looked better than the other days. Her doctor said she is in a delicate condition but stable. I don't know if I should fly to see her or not, one day she looks like she will make it and the other not. Please help me make a decision. I appreciate any input. Thanks.
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I agree with the others. When they fall into that transition in life, the end is detoured by something. Some say "unfinished business". If there are family members who haven't visited in a while, it may be a good time to reconnect. If only to say "I love you, it's ok to let go, goodbye". A phone call would be enough. She could also be worried about who will look after her husband if she were gone.
Perhaps a visit from your clergyman to give the last rights, a private confession. Whichever she is comfortable with. Her soul needs peace as well.
I pray your answers are met and that you are at peace as well. When we are in this side of thst state, we learn how to cope. For the next one, and the next... But we will be on the later side only once. I wish you and your family peace.
Blessed be.
Blessed be.
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Grandma's life span, even without ANY medical problems, is only a little while longer.
Realistically, this may be your last visit with her.
Your poor grandma has to endure many invasive procedures. That can weaken her energy.
Your mom could also use the help and moral support too.