VA Assistance for my mother who is a widow in assisted living?

Her husband had to be in the military during a War or conflict. Aids and Attendance will not pay for an AL fully. A spouse only receives about $1000 depending on income. A&A cannot be used with Medicaid. The process can take at least 6 months or longer. Your County should have a VA office where u can talk to a person. How long has Mom been in an AL? If more than two years see if they will except Medicaid. If so apply. If not your other option is a nursing home paid by Medicaid. You need to talk to the Administer at the AL and see how they can help.

Need a few more details than that. Was your father disabled veteran? Have you contacted the VA for information? va.org is a start for info.