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anonymous777335 Asked February 2018

I have been the sole caretaker for my father for 20 years. Siblings come occasionally, and they want him to change his will. Can I fight them?

I have been the sole care provider for my father for 20 plus years. Several years ago he made a will and decided that he wanted to leave me the property that he and I reside on. Now he is more ill and my siblings come and go as they please but do not take care of him. They do not take him to doctor's appointments etc. I am his sole caretaker, now they want him to change his will because he's getting more ill, and they want the land to to be divided 4 ways. Can I fight them and am I entitled to the property that was left to me in the will?

anonymous777335 Feb 2018
I was told by my dad that he wanted me and my family to have his land several years ago. which I built a house on. He is now on hospice home health care after a long week hospital stay back in September 2017 do to COPD I get phone calls in middle of night when he can't breathe. I have to go to his house 4 am help him breathe or just help him though a panic attack. I truly believe that he don't want to change his wil or if leagally he can now being on hospice. If I had money to pay off my 3 sisters I would but since I'm my father's sole caretaker my husband works while I take care of my father's house and needs.

Veronica91 Feb 2018
So Dad's getting worse and the vultures are begining so circle "tell me the old old story"!!!!!!!
What is the value of the property? Does it exceed the value of your services for the past 20 years? Do you actually want the property or would you sell it? can you afford the upkeep?
Hopefully Dad has some cognitive problems and as others have said he can't change his will.
If it is a huge parcel if you wished after his deather offer them parcels. But that would be up to you, they certainly have not earned anything.

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Countrymouse Feb 2018
You are entitled to any property left you in a valid will.

Your siblings cannot force your father to change his will if he does not want to.

If your father is not mentally competent he cannot create a new will now anyway.

So on the face of it this all seems fairly simple... why is it making you so afraid, then? Is there more to the whole issue than we would understand at first sight?

katiekay Feb 2018
I agree with the advice above.

Hopefully if your Dad is in his right mind he will not change his will. If it weren't for you caring for him, most likely his entire estate would have had to go to pay for his care and there wouldn't be anything to divide with selfish siblings.

Makes me angry these posts about siblings who show up when the parent becomes so ill he might pass .. after not helping or caring all these years.

Karsten Feb 2018
I have no legal advice to supply, but if it was me I would fight tooth and nail by every means I have. Siblings that selfish aren't real siblings. A good friend of mine's sister assisted their mother in taking care of their dementia father at home. My friend lived out of state so could not help. He DIRECTED his mom to make sure the sister would get the house as a payment of sorts for all the help she provided that my friend could not.

JoAnn29 Feb 2018
What does your Dad say. He would have to go to a lawyer and have his will changed. Is he capable of doing this? Does he have any form of Dementia? If so he can't do a new will. No one can make changes to his will but him. Hopefully, he has left something in his will for his other children stating the land and house r left to u because u cared for him. So, is Dad able to go to a Lawyer to make a new will? If not, no worry there unless they bring it to him. Once Dad passes, they could contest the will but that cost money. When that time comes, don't allow them to intimidate you by talking u into dividing the property up. It's yours because you gave up a lot for ur Dad. They should have been there.

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