The one so important is for the blood thinner as she has had many small TIAs and think she had a worse stroke about 3 months ago. She doesn't have much of an appetite. We are only getting 6 hrs. care for help with her (not with hospice) but with hospice I think they want you to be very close to death, not taking meds, not eating, etc. to receive any help. I just called her primary care dr. who we are not crazy about but only one we have at the moment and don't know if this is the time to change drs. but thinking of it. My mom has trouble walking and she can't get up without assistance and requires 24/7 assisted care. This is and has been so draining, especially yesterday and today trying to give her her meds and she seems confused about how to swallow them. Doesn't have much of an appetite either. Gave her soup and she ate mostly only the broth. I feel very afraid as I don't know really what to do or what to expect. I thought perhaps she has a UTI as I know this can cause confusion so we are having her urine tested for this. If she doesn't have a UTI don't know what to do. My brother thinks she will have a stroke without her meds and he doesn't want to see her go through another one. I am so sick over everything and haven't had a day and night to myself for close to 5 years now. Anyone know what will happen if she doesn't seem to understand how to take her meds and really, she has been giving us problems about her meds for so long now as she hates to take them anyway; a draining experience giving to her, but this time seems different as she can put the pill on her tongue but doesn't know what to do after. Even after she takes a drink to swallow, she at times will not try to swallow and just lets the drink go down while the pill gets soggy and she refuses to take it then as it is bitter. So at times, we get another pill and today went through 3 of one pill just to have success for it to go down. I love her dearly but this is no way for her to live her life. Thank you.
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And you shouldn't crush pills unless your doctor/pharmacist gives the OK.
Your brother needs to understand that if your mother's chewing and swallowing reflexes are going haywire and she accidentally inhales some of her medication she could choke, or develop aspiration pneumonia. Firstly do no harm: if you're not confident that your mother is having a good day and will be able to swallow, then delay giving her her meds until you've had professional advice on what to do.
At some point, he and you will also both need to come to terms with the fact that even powerful medications can't prevent every stroke. It may happen again. The conversation to have with your mother's doctor is about whether the medications are really helping her, and what difference it will make if he decides to scale back her px.
I'm sorry for all the worry and tiredness you must be going through. Hugs of sympathy to you.
Find out if the blood thinner meds can be crushed and mixed into applesauce, ice cream, pudding or yogurt.
Regarding Hospice, at least where I am, it's not strictly for folks who are ready to go off meds and bedbound; it's for comfort care when all agree that acute intervention is no longer useful. Blood thinners would be allowed, I believe. Please call a hospice organization in your area ( a non profit one if possible) and see what they need from you in order to send a team to evaluate your mom for their program.
In our case, the doctor at the NH had to say that mom was hospice eligible; we had to request the evaluation and agree to accept the service.