This may be a totally inappropriate topic for this board. But I figure, I have come to know and trust these people, so what the heck. My ALZ dad was in rehab for a couple weeks a month ago. While there, I got to know one of his physical therapists and felt the closest connection I had felt with someone for a long long time. My dad then went back to the hospital then back to the nursing home where she worked, though I didn't see her as she didn't work on the nursing home wing. As we moved my dad out yesterday to a memory care, I ran into her for the first time in a month and the rush of feelings came back. As my dad is no longer at that facility, I will never run into her again, but would like to somehow keep up some dialogue or at the extreme ask her out. Am I way off base here? Is this a totally inappropriate thing to be thinking? Or is there some action I can take? I do have her contact info from a business card, but don't want to contact her inappropriately. She doesn't wear a ring or appear to be attached, though one cannot know that.
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(I've gotta admit, there are so many roadblocks today it's a mystery to me how people ever manage to get together)
Received an email back saying if I do find myself in that facility again, please stop by her office to say hi. So perhaps I am keeping the dialogue going. Will wait a while before emailing back.
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I guess I have mixed feelings about this, but if your father isn't a patient there, I don't see any reason why a relationship couldn't develop if you're both interested. However, she may be a bit hesitant in the event that your father ever does return, and that could constitute a conflict of interest.
I think the biggest issue though is whether she reciprocates your feelings.
I've found that staff in medical situations can be very friendly, but it's only part of their job. They're still very professional, and reserve or limit interaction with parents and their families.
I'd be interested in reading what others' think about this situation.
Your mental and physical health and well being as a caregiver are VERY significant, and interaction with friends, or someone who's more than a friend, can make a very big difference in your life.
Since my father passed, I've had a chance to get together with family for meals out, and it's helped me tremendously. I feel more centered, less anxious, and more decisive. On the other hand, I'm probably eating too much delicious food!
No to the e-mail.
There was one month, maybe she was not on your mind?
But then you saw her again.
Ok, if you are looking for a match, or just a date, you need to act like it. No worries about the "metoo" movement, because you are not asking her to undress, have sex. It would be totally her choice if she said yes.
Send the nicest bouquet of flowers to her at work, elaborate. There are roses (colors) designated for friendship. Add an elaborate thank you card, addressing only her, with your phone number on it. Then add your e-mail.
If she thanks you by e-mail, forget it.
If she phones you up, with a smile in her voice, talks awhile, ask her to join you for coffee.
What would I know anyway.
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