I had to place my mom in a nursing home recently because I could no longer take care of her in her home even with all the extra help. I'd like to know if anyone has experienced taking their loved one home overnight for a visit and it worsened the dementia. The social worker is advising against it stating that her dementia, confusion will get worse if I do that. I can't imagine not taking her out if only for the day but preferably overnight. I understand that changing her environment could worsen her dementia but is this short period going to make her happy? She's at a point where she doesn;t remember what happened an hour ago but is happy doing things with me in the moment. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
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it may give you satisfaction to take Mom out but with her lack of memory she won't remember anyway so think to yourself who is benefiting.. An elder in a nursing home whose brain is intact naturally would enjoy being taken out and overnight visits but that is a whole different scenario.. Definitly no home visits for reluctant NH residents.
I had one hospice patient of sound mind who spent every week end at her son's home in her old room and in that case it worked well until she was too sick to make the trip. this same patient took care of her own personal needs as long as she could including getting up and dressed every day and making her own bed
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When my Dad moved to senior living, with some sundowning, I never brought Dad back to my house. I would have loved to, but it would have only brought up sad memories because my Mom had passed a year prior, and they never visited without each other. And eventually down the line, create more confusion for him.
Oh, Dad did go outside of the facility for his doctor appointments and hair cuts, but he went with his private caregiver. Afterwards they would stop at Burger King as a treat. Therefore no memories of my house nor the house my parents had owned in the same neighborhood.
Make the most of her being happy to be with you; and what's more you can use that to create happy associations for her within the NH - you're there, so it must be a nice, safe place for her to be.