Mom's been in the MC unit of an AL facility for 6 weeks. We looked at 2 different facilities together - both very similar in reputation, cost, cleanliness, amenities - before we chose the one she's currently living in. Unfortunately, she's been terribly unhappy since moving. She wants to go home, but realizes that is not going to happen. So she has now decided she wants to move to the other facility. She believes it will have better staff, better rooms, better food, etc. I've been ignoring or redirecting the conversation every time she brings this up, but based on her phone messages for the last couple days, she thinks I'm talking to the other facility and picking out her new room! She's excited and can't wait for the big move. Should I tell her the truth - that I have no intention of moving her, or should I make up a story and tell her nothing is available? I'm afraid if I avoid the truth, she'll never let the issue go. But I'm also afraid of how much the truth will disappoint her.
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Have you discussed how she is settling in with the activities direct and/or the head nurse in MC? Do they have any suggestions for helping that process along?
I find they fixate on something and will not let it drop. Well until they find a new thing to fixate on. I'd tell her a white lie and say they were all booked up and you will check back in 3 months to see if anything opened up. My father thought the same thing, once he said "I want to move here" the next day he would move in. The thing that changed for my father is now he needs assistance dressing so he is getting the 'personal' attention he so desperately wants so now all is good.
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