Just found my father (83) on the floor stiff, eyes open, kinda panting, not answering. He came to saying he wasn't ok what will happen?

Kacy, I give you credit for having the strength to honor your father's wishes. It can't be easy to see him in turmoil and know that you can't call for help b/c it's against his wishes.

If he does pass tonight, I hope that it's peaceful for both of you.

Kacy, I didn't realize this was part of a Hospice situation. Sorry I barked at you for not calling 911. Glad you talked to the Hospice nurse.

Your question about a time line would be best answered by the Hospice nurse when she comes over to visit your Dad. They are pretty good at giving you an estimated time.

So sorry this is happening to you. Your Dad might rally, as that is common, thus be talkative, want to eat, etc. but a day or two later he will go back to how he was before the rally.

One thing to do when Dad is asleep or in a coma state is to tell him it is ok for him to go... that you will be ok because he taught you everything you need to know, and that you love him. It will reassure him that you will do fine.

My dad fell 4 more time Monday night the nurse came he has had a stroke in his left hemisphere and has a subdural hematoma. He has lost all control of function and cant swallow. He thinks my son is his brother that has past and sometimes he sees a lady that isn't there. He also has a dvt in his right leg. Doing everything possible just to keep him comfortable now . Thank you all for the support it helps so much

Kacynichols, welcome to the forum as I see this is your first posting. Just curious, why didn't you dial 911? My gosh, your Dad could be having strokes. The more time you waste not getting him to the hospital the more complex his case will be.

GET ON THE PHONE !!

Agreed. Call 911 & have him checked over.

He made me promise to let him die at home and refused medical treatment I don't want to go against his wishes I'm so torn I've called the nurse

Is he on hospice?

If he's on Hospice, you call the Hospice nurse line, not 911, because he's decided not to accept treatment .

Is a Hospice Nurse coming to check on your Dad? I would think since there has been an episode you could request a Hospice Nurse to check for changes. You could ask her after she evaluates your Dad, her opinion of what is going on and a timeline.

You stated that you talked to a Hospice Nurse? The Hospice Nurse needs to evaluate your Dad since he experienced a major change in consciousness and because his eyesight seems to have changed.

Has your Dad had these type of episodes (lying on the floor with stiff open eyes, panting or labored breathing and unresponsiveness) since he was went on Hospice or are these something new? If they are new, then definitely, the Hospice Nurse needs to see him as it effects their plan of care for him.

Here are some websites that list symptoms that might occur as the body begins to shut down in preparation for death. Talk more with the Hospice Nurse about any symptoms that might be specific for your Dad.
www.webmd.com/palliative-care/journeys-end-active-dying#1-3

hospicenet.org/html/preparing_for.html

www.caring.com/articles/signs-of-death

Please keep us updated on your Dad's health. God Bless!

My mom is like your dad,, complete DNR. She has had several TIAs ( small strokes).. Knocks her out for awhile, then she sort of goes back to normal. This has been going on for several years..