If you have a loved one in an assisted living facility don't expect them to be completely safe.

Just to let you know, I am not a relative or POA of any kind to this person. So, I have no say I anything that is done. She has an estranged adopted daughter and wants no contact made and 2 cousins and she doesn't want them involved. It took me a couple of yrs just to find out who cousins are and I contacted one of them but was told that she didn't want them to visit so they backed off. DSS elderly protective service checked twice on her but closed her case.

Momsablessing if you notice many NH/AL have a high turnover rate

Just a clarification, and certainly not a criticism of interpretation.... I was thinking that every time I leave my house I'm vulnerable. Sometimes I'm tailgated even before I get off my street, then on the freeway ramp, or wherever I go.

If it's not someone in a hurry to get somewhere, it's someone who doesn't use turn signals, doesn't obey stop signs or someone speeding.

And that's not even addressing distracted drivers.


Sometimes when I get home I think, "well, I've survived another venture out into the mass chaos of SE Michigan freeway and streets.:

And then there are the unstable people who commit mass murders. Sometimes I feel I'd be better off living in a remote area with bears and wildlife than with milliions of people.

Actually, I think my father was probably safer rehab than I am on the streets.

I agree, the medtechs need to stand there and watch the person take their medication.

Well said, GardenArtist, freqflyer and Ahmijoy. No vulnerable is completely safe, either in a home or in a care facility, so we investigate facilities before we entrust them with a loved one, and then, whether in a facility or a sibling's home, we frequently visit, monitor and assist until the end. Momsablessing, all we can do is our best, nothing is perfect.  Thanks for the word of caution.

Momsablessing, this is why we visit and monitor our loved ones in any facility. We speak with the staff and doctor(s) who tend to them and keep up-to-date on what kind of meds they’re taking, including side effects of the good  and bad kind. As an example, if my husband doesn’t take his diuretic, his ankles swell and his urine output drops dramatically.

We are caregivers even when our loved ones don’t live with us. We still have to be vigilant and aware of what’s going on.

Sadly, no one is completely safe anywhere these days.

Momsablessing, there are outstanding Assisting Living facilities and others at the bottom of the scale.

When it comes to meds, it is not unusual for an elder to pretend to take a pill, then hide the pills elsewhere. Or for an elder to drop a pill if he/she has a few in their hand to take at once. One time I found some pills that had fallen between the cushions on the sofa, and some under Dad's recliner. So we really can't blame the Medtechs, as what else could they do. The same could happen at home.