My dad has been in a SNF since February. He has Parkinson’s. Since that time we have seen him digress rapidly. He no longer can stand or even walk with a therapist. He has had a bad fall and is pretty much bedridden. His speech has digressed to mumbling and you can barely hear or understand him. Swallowing is also becoming an issue. The nurses have suggested we might want to consider hospice. Has anyone else had experience with hospice? What are the pros and cons? Is it a “death sentence”? When should you agree to put your loved one on hospice?
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I am so sorry you are going through this.
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Note that one will pass on the same time table with or without Hospice. Hospice is there to help make that passing as pain free as possible which we would want for our love ones.
Both my parents used Hospice. My Mom was also a serious fall case, afterwards she couldn't remember how to walk or even stand, and the fall also accelerated Dementia into the last stage. There was absolutely nothing the doctors could do for my Mom. Mom just stopped eating as her body was no longer accepting food. My Mom had a peaceful transition.
I got her doctor to recommend hospice once he was willing to admit that there was really nothing that was going to fix her problems...the surgery would have killed her, and nothing else was likely to help. My Mom wanted to just be pain free.
The choice for me with my Mom was to get the medical care she needed for real pain management. She could not swallow pills, and the doctors would not prescribe the level of pain killers she had to have (thinking they would be investigated for needless dispensing these drugs).
Hospice was able to get on top of her pain, and keep her pain free for the remainder of her days. She was not going to get better...why let her remain in pain?