My daughter and her family moved in with dad in February. Things are going good. Dad has dementia and he isn't lonely anymore. My daughter has asked me 2 times now if friends that are traveling can stay at dad's house for one or two days (and visit). I have read that the dementia person's schedule should remain as regular as possible to keep them stable. Dad is very friendly and social. What do you think about letting friends stay overnight?
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Is there some other reason you don't want the friends' visits? Such as, do they have rowdy friends who cause problems? Drugs, etc.?
There are too many variables to know what affect the visit will have on your dad. I would say that since things are going so well it’s a lot to risk.
Could you care for your dad and give your daughter time to visit with her friends when they travel through? Perhaps they could stay at your home?
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What are your concerns, specifically? What are you afraid might happen?
I think that your daughter can have some friends stay over night at her dad's house for one or two days as long as your daughter has educated them on what the visitors can and cannot do----such as: No DRUGS; DO NOT bring MORE BEER for her Dad to drink then what the daughter already provides for him; that if her Dad starts to become upset or agitated that is a signal for everyone to leave the room or the house and go elsewhere to continue the visit; DO NOT ARGUE with her Dad; that her Dad tires easily and does not have the mental capacity to play board games or card games like he used to; that if he wants to watch a certain TV show, then HIS preferences override those of any guests. Your daughter and her guests will have to be extra vigilant that any activity they do will not upset her Dad, but I think if everyone follows some guidelines, the visit might be a happy event.
Also, don't be surprised if her Dad becomes disoriented or agitated or has a decline in physical, mental, emotional or psychological function AFTER THE VISIT. People with dementia tend to experience these temporary declines after they experience a situation that is DIFFERENT from their daily routine. Give her Dad time to "recover" from the visit before having more visitors.
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