My mom with schziophrenia and knee arthritis is in the process of moving into an assisted living home. I'm a long distance caregiver in my 20's and trying to setup a system that would allow me travel for work or school if need be. At the moment the assisted living she'll be moving into is less than 2 hours away from where I currently live and work. She is transitioning from one on one homecare to assisted living for the first time. On one hand this transition seems great because we can always expect her to get her meds and do not have to deal with coordinating caregivers, however there still seems to be confusion with the health care part of the equation. Because my Mom has a mental illness its hard for her to setup dr. appointments and advocate for herself in the drs. room. Does assisted living do this for you? For ex, if they notice something wrong with her foot do they set an appointment with her foot doctor and go with her there to address it? They have a nurse on staff but in what way are they usually involved in these facilities? Do I have to hire someone else to do this And if so, how do I coordinate this? Geriatric care manager? Home health aide? It would difficult for me to just be down there at a moments notice for a drs. app.
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I also don't want to be the one to be called when there are issues. And I've told my brothers (all out of state) as much. I feel like I've done my time, and it's time for someone ELSE to step up and take care of this domineering, controlling and obsessive 92-year-old whose memory and reasoning is going.
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Thats a great idea. We could budget to have her come in once or twice a week. It wouldn't exactly be ideal money wise, but I'm not sure we have any other options at this point. I've thought about board and care facility's, but my mom is fairly high functioning, in her early 60s. Would hate for her to give up her cats, privacy, and be around people who need a higher level of care than her.
Her caregiver is currently coordinating and ordering all the medications and taking her to the dr. apps. I'll have to compare the costs between that and a geriatric care manger.
She's already setup on a payroll so I don't think it will be too difficult of a transition.
My Dad did that, he was able to bring along his favorite caregiver who came for only half days when he moved to Independent Living, then later to Assisted Living/Memory Care. And this caregiver would take Dad to his doctor/dentist appointments and would go right into the exam room with him.
As for what will Assisted Living do for your Mom, you need to check with facility before signing on the dotted lines, seems like each facility does things a bit differently depending on the cost. The less expensive ones may have an option list of extras that your Mom would need to pay for, like transportation, pill management, laundry, etc. While others that charge a higher monthly rate, those items are included.
Do you know of any alternatives? Is there an in between of nh and assisted living. No one in my family (myself included) have the time available to make that kind of commitment. Didn't realize how all encompassing home care was in comparison.
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