My father is 75 and in fairly good health according to his doctor. He is convinced that there is something very medically wrong with him even though all of the tests have come back negative. My mom passed away about 20 years ago (he never remarried) and I'm 31 who lives about two hours away. Over the years, he's been depressed and extremely paranoid. I don't really know how to help him and I don't know what to do for him. It seems in the past few months, his depression has gotten worse. He doesn't have any hobbies or hang out with people which I'm sure makes his depression even worse. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!
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There is no shame in having this illness. There is no shame in seeking treatment. If he had symptoms of diabetes he should certainly discuss them with a doctor, and then follow treatment advice. This is no different.
I know how lousy it feels to standby helplessly and watch a loved one just exist.
My Mom went through a horrible depression after losing a LO. I too lived over 2 hrs away at the time. But I'll tell ya, my day would be ruined from a brief phone call with her. I absolutely felt miserable with her.
She finally talked to her Dr. She was put on an anti-depressants. She was also prescribed an anti-anxiety med. The change is like night and day!
Is Dad open to talking to his Dr about it? That's probably his best bet. Therapy is wonderful, if he'd go.
I had to wait for Mom's meds to kick in before she would agree to therapy. I don't think that generation is comfortable with counseling. Definitely not like we are today with it.
I hope he gives his Dr a shot. It can only help.
Good luck, hang in there!