In the last 4-5 months he has found out he had a cancerous tumor attached to one of his kidneys & lymph nodes.They decided to remove his kidney & tumor and everything surrounding, but didn't even bother to tell either me or my brother until 2 weeks after the surgery, her decision I'm assured. My concern is with his weight loss, he has lost at least 30 % + of his body weight and continues to lose. We do not know who his doctors are or anything because his wife chooses not to include us in that either. He is currently taking chemo pills for 3 months only for precautionary measures. Because she says the cancer is gone. ? My brother and I keep asking him to let us come and get him for a while, just to assure that he is being fed correctly and is properly taken care of. Every time we call she is in the background talking and telling him what to say. Legally what are our options??? We believe he would come with us if he could just get away from her long enough to speak to us in private.
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Is it possible that dad and his wife think of you as "kids" as in " we don't want the kids to worry".
Many parents do this, even when their "kids" are seniors themselves.
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Calling obviously does no good. Because of HIPPA, calling his doctor will do no good because they can’t tell you anything. The only way you’ll get any answers is to go there. If you reveal your plans, sounds like she will make sure they aren’t home. Are you his nearest relative? Do you live farther than 3 hours ? Even so, it would still behoove you to make the trip. You’re obviously worried about your dad. You’ll need to make time to get this sorted out. See for yourself how Dad is doing. If she slams the door in your face, then you call APS in his city and tell them you’re not being allowed to see him and fear for his well-being.
Why not go and visit them? Book into a local motel/hotel and go for a week end?
That way you will be able to get a small idea of what is happening.
I am sure there will be someone along that will be able to point you in a better direction.
Good Luck