My 94-yr-old mom claims her cat speaks to her. He is now using complete sentences. She gets furious if I act skeptical and says I think she's just a crazy old lady. She claims that she IS NOT and that in fact she is far smarter than me. This must be the onset of dementia? Should I just go along with the talking cat phenomenon, or try to keep her from falling further down this slippery slope?
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Its justs seems that if your mom has made it thus far without showing signs of dementia- and then going from zero to 60 with a talking cat - that it’s more likely something physical. Dementia starts out slowly - usually - although it can progress quite quickly.
Dont try to reason with her - that seems to be making matters worst. You don’t need to feed the delusions but you can simply nod and say things like “huh, imagine that”.
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My Husband and I had a dog for many years and I would "make the dog talk" and we had some very funny conversations. Even after the dog had died we would often bring up "What would Rinny have said about that" (German Shepard that we had for 16 years)
As long as what the cat is saying is not causing any anxiety I see no harm in playing along.
Definitely time to see the doctor.
I imagine my animals talking to me all the time - there's no harm in it. Some "looks" just call for interpretation.
Look @ this harmless behavior to figure out what your Mom is really thinking & feeling as it seems she has decided its easier or "safer" to communicate through her cat.
You could join in .....for instance.....kitty is so tired & he wants to take a nap with you now...am pretty sure that's what he said....kitty is having lunch now & thinks you should too...etc etc. Try to have fun with it if Mom allows....it might work in your favor.
Unfortunately you as the primary CG will always be the "bad guy." Only in fleeting moments of clarity will your efforts be acknowledged & appreciated. Remember it's not really your Mom but the aging process & disease talking. She's lucky to have you.
Explain that you do not have it. So could she translate to you what the cat says.
That way you will have an insight and a 'heads up' into her mind.
As long as she harms no-one and keeps herself safe, she is doing no harm, I think.
Get her a little treat for her and for the cat, as a "sorry I did not accept the fact you can talk WITH your cat"
Good luck
I agree with not arguing with her. However, monitor what the cat says. If it starts telling her to harm others or herself, it’s time for the doctor for Claudia, like it or not.
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