Walked away from toxic mother. Now she's calling my teen daughters for help. What should I do?

Thank you for the responses. My elder daughter is moving into an apartment but still sleeps there. It is so upsetting to her because of how my mom keeps falling at night. She came home from work at midnight Thursday and my mom was on the floor. My daughter thought she was dead but was able to rouse her, at which point my mom yelled at her for waking her up. She fell again Friday night and went back to calling my ex husband to come get her up. He called my brother but he had blocked my ex husband's number, so ex went over to pick her up. I emailed my brother and told him to come and get her now. He drove in Sarurday morning and literally dragged her to his car to take her to his house. We literally wept with relief. But guess who was back home by Saturday night? She had told my brother she "wanted to go home." She fell again Saturday night and once again called my ex husband, who picked her up again so our daughter wouldnt have to. She is actually in physical pain now from picking up my mom's 150 pounds of dead weight. (Daughter weighs about 110). I emailed my brother again. No response. I was at my end. Yesterday morning I started drinking and got very drunk. At this point I was berated by my daughters for drinking and snapped. The 20 years of supporting everyone, working 14 hour days but just scraping,by, taking care of my ex who has mental illness and now my mom for so many years...the physical abuse from my brother and my own addiction to try to deal with it all . . . it all just came crashing down. I drove to the lake and didn't know if I was going to go back. Then I thought of my daughter who just turned 16 and how sad she has been with few friends and us gone all the time with the issues with my mom and how she tries to still be positive, and I turned around and went home. My ex slept at my mom's last night with the plan to call 911 when she fell again. I just woke up and I don't know yet what happened but I pray to God she is either in the hospital or dead, because if it's not her it is going to be me. I simply cannot even think about this situation anymore. I have done everything I could. I told my ex to stay away, but I can't force him to. I have told my brother she is under cared for until I am blue in the face. I told my daughter to leave and stay here at home with us until her apartment is ready, but she doesn't want to move twice so I have to accept that this is her decision too as an adult.

Your mom and your brother are the jerks in this story. Block mom's number.

If you care to, send the neighbor a note; tell her that she needs to call 911 if mom has an emergency and APS if she feels that she in a dangerous living situation; you might add your brother's contact info and the fact that he has POA and should be contacted if there are issues.

You have no legal obligation to care for your mother.

Stick by your guns. Just tell her to call your brother. That your family is no longer going to help because its not appreciated and tired of the disrespect. Both have to learn that people can only take so much. You have a job you have a responsibility to. Tell her she needs to find help.

No one can use you or your daughters unless you let yourselves be used. Slam the door, shoot the bolt and walk away. Who cares what the neighbors think of you? Seriously. Do you really worry about stuff like that?

Get on with your life. Tell the kids to block Grandma’s calls. They’re both still under 21 and your responsibility.

If you want things to continue to be “the worst”, then do nothing. Continue to let these toxic people use you and your kids. It’s within your control to walk away. Do it.

Ok thank you. God this is the worst!

No you are not a jerk, and you and your daughters need to step back and let Golden Boy have it his way. If the neighbors call you, tell them the truth.. Brother will not "allow" you to help, so call him. If she falls, she calls 911. You tell them Brother has all power and will not give you any information so you cant help. Then they can call Brother. You have already told him what you will do.. so stick to your guns sister!! I know it's hard.. but once you cave in you are done for. And don't answer his call right away,, because he will call.. just wait a few hours and then call him back if you feel like it.. or block his calls!