My sweet FIL died 3 years ago. So my very difficult and self-absorbed MIL is driving us really nuts. She did go to assisted living 7 days ago..saying it was time. We could not believe it.
She is in a gorgeous place with an apartment. She calls wanting to come home and look thru things she says she needs. We ask for a list..we will be happy to bring it up. She got so angry..said she was going to call elder abuse on us. She has no more room in her apartment. She was assisted in the move and they brought everything she needed. We are quite sure if she came home she would sit down in the one chair left and refuse to leave.
She thinks we are selling her crystal and china.
We think we should stay away for a bit. The day I took her to assisted living..I took her to get her nails done..I got a pedicure. On the way out she thru a cup of water on my head because I took too long. My husband says she has been this way all her life. My FIL warned me too. Bipolar or Borderline Personality disorder..or both.
Should we stay away for a bit...at wits end. Help!
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Read her contract. My Moms said what she was allowed in her apt. Tell her taking things of worth is not a good idea. They could get broke or stolen. Plus, what does she need with china and crystal.
Don't let her rule ur life. Set boundries now. You are entering a whole new world of having your life back.
Let her call whomever she wants, you have nothing to fear.
I personally think telling someone that their behavior is inappropriate and unacceptable is a good thing. If you allow people to be abusive towards you, you get abusive treatment.
I get she is sick but she has always been this way, so telling her not to treat you that way is okay. I would have gone through the roof if she did that to me. It would be the last time I took her anywhere.
Get your hubby to take you on a thank you trip and block her number while you're gone.
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Has she been seen by a geriatric psychiatrist?
Stay in touch with the staff by phone. If she is uncharacteristically "off", she needs to be checked for a UTI, which in elders can cause psychiatric issues.