Hangingon61- If you aren't comfortable with your mom leaving her body for medical research then that option is off the table. But just for the record, Catholics are absolutely allowed to do that. Catholics are allowed to donate organs too. Those things are considered to be a "noble act".
Yes that may be (Ok for Catholics) but I know my mom wouldn’t want that. shes mentioned it in the past. im going to ask the hospice nurse if she knows of any financial help to have her cremated. no services, just cremation.
If your mother prepaid for her cremation, you can keep the cremains until the time you can afford to bury with your sister. VA generally pays only for the veteran, not spouse. Although if your father is buried in a VA cemetery, your mother’s Cremains May be buried on top. Are there family or friends who can help pay?
My Inlaws are buried together at a National Cemetary. They both needed to be cremated and the VA paid for everything. All we did was pay for the minister.
Now the County VA cemeteries work different. But, I have heard they allow spouses but charge for opening the grave.
I thought your mother prepaid something or are you still trying to put her in your sister and getting someone to open that burial spot. Medicaid is not going to pay. Access the reverse mortgage you’ve talked about to get money to pay for this. Or if only cremation is paid, keep her creaminess at your home. The government does not have money to pay for these services.
Talk to the Hospice Nurse. Maybe she knows some resources. Call you local Funeral director and ask him/her. Call your local Welfare/Social Service office. I know my state has something so I would think all states would. All that will be done probably is the cremation and a box. I doubt they will pay for services but they may.
Like said, if Dad or Mom was a Vet check that out.
It depends on the laws of your state. You want to research "indigent burials". The Medicaid office for your state should have some information for you.
I know I read an article about indigent burials in Massachusetts. The article stated that the amount the state would pay to a funeral director to handle remains of someone who died indigent had not been increased since the 1970s and did not even cover the funeral home's costs. The result was that the only funeral homes still handling indigent remains were doing it as a public service. So, you can imagine how many indigent burials they could support and still support their business.
Was your mom or her husband a veteran? Sometimes they have programs to help with burials. If you or your mom are members of a church or other religious group, they might have financial help available for this purpose. You might also investigate leaving her body to science. I'm sorry. This must be just adding an extra layer of difficulty when you are already losing your mom.
Most states do have some process for handling the remains of the indigent. Usually, the family signs a release form and the county coroner will handle the remains. Sometimes they charge a small fee if you want the cremains.
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If you aren't comfortable with your mom leaving her body for medical research then that option is off the table. But just for the record, Catholics are absolutely allowed to do that. Catholics are allowed to donate organs too. Those things are considered to be a "noble act".
shes mentioned it in the past.
im going to ask the hospice nurse if she knows of any financial help to have her cremated.
no services, just cremation.
Now the County VA cemeteries work different. But, I have heard they allow spouses but charge for opening the grave.
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Like said, if Dad or Mom was a Vet check that out.
I know I read an article about indigent burials in Massachusetts. The article stated that the amount the state would pay to a funeral director to handle remains of someone who died indigent had not been increased since the 1970s and did not even cover the funeral home's costs. The result was that the only funeral homes still handling indigent remains were doing it as a public service. So, you can imagine how many indigent burials they could support and still support their business.
Was your mom or her husband a veteran? Sometimes they have programs to help with burials. If you or your mom are members of a church or other religious group, they might have financial help available for this purpose. You might also investigate leaving her body to science. I'm sorry. This must be just adding an extra layer of difficulty when you are already losing your mom.