Not a question, just need help.

Maybe its time for a AL or NH for Dad. Does brother live with them? Does he help at all? Being away from family for as long as you have has to be hard trying to reknow them. Have you accomplished what you initially wanted. Then maybe its time to go. Mom will need to get help in or place Dad somewhere. The holidays are coming, go and enjoy.

i left with husbands blessing to help parents, transferred from Home Depot in MD to Al. I left mid April to help her start liquidating things parents have collected for 90 years of marriage,go over trust and will. Cooking,cleaning, laundry, yard work, hygiene items for dad,nails hair. I had talked with mom early about moving in with husband and i, let's be snow birds. Sounded good at first but she has no intention of moving in with me or my brother. She tells me how he has mistreated her and has been mean. I have not lived near my family since 1985, but have gone home to visit yearly and phone calls daily. Insomnia due to stress, brother does not want me here and it is upsetting to all. Home healthcare was available for a few months and was told brother has anger issues, knew that been walking on eggshells for years. Hindsight option could have been LOA instead of transferring for a year. Have gone home 2, pneumonia when i came back and a rash around my stomach the second. I love both of my parents and want to take care of them, but the family dynamics are killing me. Falling in deep depression,been there before many years ago and tried to commit suicide. Thanks for listening

Time- I know you are having a difficult time. And as Margaret said we need a little more information, to know how to respond. But, I will be praying for you, and when we have hit our knees in despair we might as well pray while we are down there.

Hi! You sound pretty upset, and I am not surprised. How long ago did you make the move? Did you mean to leave your husband permanently, or just for the duration of your parents’ problems? Were there any other options? Is it all turning out to be worse than you expected – tell us more. Is your insomnia because of stress, or are you being disturbed a lot in the night? Perhaps if you can write a bit more detail, people can offer some helpful suggestions, as well as sympathy – which I am sure you need!