I find myself worrying my head about this everyday and especially at night before sleep. I'm so close with my mom. I was already living with her before her health decline. Ten years, but been hands on caregiver for two solid years. I did stuff before too but not on this level. She has the interstitial lung disease. Diagnosed about four or so years ago. The life expectancy with this is five years. They have stages online and well I believe she is at last stage. My world will be turned upside down. I feel like I can't live without her. We have no other close family except my teenage son who lives with us. I'm very scared of the new world I'm about to exist in. Any tips or thoughtful advice? Also these doctors won't give her pain medicine. I realize their are new regulations but someone in her back pain and sickness needs relief.
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I'm always afraid I'll miss something and be responsible for her passing....which is not logical! My mother is 93. I started going to a therapist because I was so depressed I dreaded getting up in the morning & wasn't taking care of myseIf. I also have started an antidepressant, which helps. This started when she was 89. The therapist and I have discussed what an adjustment it will be when she passes. I'm counting on my therapist to be there for me so I can be there for my mother & after she passes.
I'm very happy I got professional help and I'd like to suggest it. If you're on Medicare, it pays for counseling. (You look to young to be, though!)
My heart goes out to you.
Take care of yourself!
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Kelly