Blood pressure, cardiogram, pulse, blood work, urine analysis are all good. However now she she wants to go to the hospital when she's not feeling right. I've spoken to the doctor and he advises me to keep her home at her age of 93 because in the hospital she would be more prone to infection and the like. My problem is how to I keep mom peaceful about her situation? I know that probably in a few hours she'll forget the entire incident, which has happened.
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That should reassure your Mother, if it is anxiety driven - and she might even feel special, since this is her own private person. It’s just a therapeutic fib, no harm, no foul. Good luck, dear.
You've gotten some good suggestions for distracting and redirecting. I suggest a DIY approach, too. "The hospital says there is a nasty bug going around, and there is not much that they can do for it. They suggest drinking freshly squeezed lemon juice in hot water with a little honey and just a shake of cinnamon, every hour that you are awake, and also to get extra rest until the bug leaves. If it lasts longer than 3 days we should make an appointment with your regular doctor." Try to come up with "fixes" that don't require an ER!
If all else fails, grit your teeth and ride it out. It may be an unpleasant couple of hours, but not as unpleasant as an unnecessary hospital or clinic visit.
After this we put a 20 questions procedure in place with ALF staff unless her situation was life threatening. You could try it...
Ask a series of simple questions like where does it hurt, on a scale of one to 10 how bad is the pain, would a Tylenol make you feel better, would a back rub help, would a cup of tea make you feel better, etc., if this does not help, try asking if she thinks she needs x-rays or blood tests to help with the problem to remind her about how invasive the hospital is. And yes, try distraction, tho in my mom's case, it never works for long.
Good luck!