Mother will not cooperate with caregiver to change underwear or put clean clothes on. Any advice?
She claims she does not like this caregiver and she is giving this problem everyday now. I have tried strong medicines but they have bad stomach pain side effects. Today I am trying to bribe her with breakfast. Is this wrong?
i took care of lady for 12 yrs wo becse like that. bribing worked a while! (i did Not feel guilty!) but only for awhile. what i found to work was, she had this one dress she lived- (a jean dress) i spoke with her daughter, we ordered her several of the same. as for changing underclothes and bathing, we lied. it got too bad not to. told her one if her grandsons said he might stop by today, (but her daughter would have them gibe her a quick call! and they all stepoed up even cane to visit some of the times!) told her she stunk and he’d tell all his friends so....
Does your mom have a morning routine in the bathroom? Brushing teeth? Washing face? Using the commode? This is where the clean underwear and clothes come in, while your mom is going through her a.m. bathroom routine. While she's on the commode the caregiver can slip off last night's underwear and slide on a fresh pair. Once your mom is done using the commode the caregiver can begin to undress her and put clean clothes on her. The caregiver shouldn't say, "Are you ready for a clean shirt?" The caregiver should instead say, "Here's your clean shirt." Your mom doesn't get a choice. She wears clean clothes and underwear everyday. And if the caregiver undresses and then dresses your mom from the commode it will become part of her routine.
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Does your mom have a morning routine in the bathroom? Brushing teeth? Washing face? Using the commode? This is where the clean underwear and clothes come in, while your mom is going through her a.m. bathroom routine. While she's on the commode the caregiver can slip off last night's underwear and slide on a fresh pair. Once your mom is done using the commode the caregiver can begin to undress her and put clean clothes on her. The caregiver shouldn't say, "Are you ready for a clean shirt?" The caregiver should instead say, "Here's your clean shirt." Your mom doesn't get a choice. She wears clean clothes and underwear everyday. And if the caregiver undresses and then dresses your mom from the commode it will become part of her routine.
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