What kind of testing has your husband had? FTD is a degenerative disease and evidence of this for sure will show up on scans.
My husband worked for his family’s business from the age of 16 until he was 63. After a stroke in 2003, he began to mess up, a LOT and I understand he cost the company a lot of money and made many mistakes. Finally, when he became incontinent (both ways) he had an accident in the men’s room of the company and for some reason never told anyone or cleaned it up, just went back to his desk. His family was incensed and called a family meeting which I was asked to attend as well. It was awful. They were fairly understanding because they knew he had issues, but they cut him down to half days. When he was hospitalized for a near-fatal heart infection, they fired him. We’ve since cut off contact with them.
The moral of this story is to please not leave it until your husband has to be fired by his company. Save him hurt and embarrassment. My husband internalized his feelings about being fired by his own twin brother, but I know he was and is devastated.
Just know costly mistakes can bankrupt a company. Yes, I've seen it because I used to be in this kind of business. The employer is responsible for not one person, but all the people who work there, and whose livelihoods depend on the company's survival.
exactly which is why I am in this dilemma.....to tell or not to tell. It would be easier if the dr hadn't said he definitely has FTD, and then changed his mind. We obviously quit going to him. Yes, I don't want to be responsible for bankrupting any one!
How do you know its FTD if he hasn't been diagnoised. I think first, you need a confirmed diagnosis before you talk to his employer. Once that is done, telling his boss is something you can discuss with his doctor.
The chief dr told me it was definitely FTD three times, but then changed his mind. All that is in writing is "mild cognitive decline". That doesn't put me in a very good situation. Since he flip-flopped on the diagnosis, we quit going any where for further evaluation. Can you blame us? but soon we will have to find someone else to go to. He has a new PCP so he can refer him somewhere new. Thanks for your feedback.
It’s the employers responsibility to access the abilities of all of their employees, not just the older ones. I had a speciality construction company and watched all kinds of people make expensive mistakes. If you rat your husband out with a disease that hasn’t even been diagnosed by a professional specializing in diseases like FTD your husband might be without a job earlier and home with you longer. My uncle was far down the Alizhiemers path but was very fluent in his area of expertise. It was unbelievable that he could become so articulate. For heavens sake let your husband go to work for as long as possible.
The chief dr told me three times that he definitely had FTD, and then said he definitely didn't have FTD. (which I realize is hard to believe). The only thing in writing is "mild cognitive decline." Of course, since I live with him I see that he doesn't always make sense. He is working with a new builder and he just recently started a house on a property with the wrong side facing the driveway! Not sure what's gonna happen from here.
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My husband worked for his family’s business from the age of 16 until he was 63. After a stroke in 2003, he began to mess up, a LOT and I understand he cost the company a lot of money and made many mistakes. Finally, when he became incontinent (both ways) he had an accident in the men’s room of the company and for some reason never told anyone or cleaned it up, just went back to his desk. His family was incensed and called a family meeting which I was asked to attend as well. It was awful. They were fairly understanding because they knew he had issues, but they cut him down to half days. When he was hospitalized for a near-fatal heart infection, they fired him. We’ve since cut off contact with them.
The moral of this story is to please not leave it until your husband has to be fired by his company. Save him hurt and embarrassment. My husband internalized his feelings about being fired by his own twin brother, but I know he was and is devastated.
Just know costly mistakes can bankrupt a company. Yes, I've seen it because I used to be in this kind of business. The employer is responsible for not one person, but all the people who work there, and whose livelihoods depend on the company's survival.
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Since he flip-flopped on the diagnosis, we quit going any where for further evaluation. Can you blame us? but soon we will have to find someone else to go to. He has a new PCP so he can refer him somewhere new. Thanks for your feedback.
I had a speciality construction company and watched all kinds of people make expensive mistakes.
If you rat your husband out with a disease that hasn’t even been diagnosed by a professional specializing in diseases like FTD your husband might be without a job earlier and home with you longer.
My uncle was far down the Alizhiemers path but was very fluent in his area of expertise. It was unbelievable that he could become so articulate.
For heavens sake let your husband go to work for as long as possible.