Dealing with emotions after moving husband to skilled nursing...

Had to do it first for mother than grandmother hardest thing I had to do. My mother understands and know I cant take care of her alot of health issues.

When my grandmother was well she was the one supported me in putting my mother in a NH. Now they are together and she still sometimes ask to go home. But my mother reminds her that she lives there too.

A very wise answer from MargaretMcKen!

There are two sides to this: How much time does he need from you, and how much time do you need with him? For yourself, of course this has made a huge hole in your life (as his death would have done). You can see him when you wish, while building up a separate life at the speed which suits you. For him, he also needs to get used to being in the Nursing Home, which he can’t do if you are there most of the time. Is he missing you a great deal, pressuring you to take him back home or to spend every day with him? If so, you need to back off for a while for his sake. You need to balance both sides – the best for him and the best for you too. I am sure that you know that, and that you will sort it out over time. you certainly haven't 'given up on him'. Best Wishes.