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billky Asked November 2018

What to do with a Navy veteran who can no longer care for himself due to the onset of dementia?

I recently purchased a home in Naples,FL from my "significant other". The person renting this house has on-set dementia and is no longer able to handle day-to-day activities. As he is 80 yrs. old and only has about $1200 dollars a month from social security, what are my options? It would be a shame to have another "homeless vet" on the streets..any advice?

EXPERT Dianne Stephens Nov 2018
Many veterans seek our service for senior care resources, thank you for reaching out! Seniors who are struggling with memory loss often benefit from an assisted living enviornment where they can receive the assistance with activities of daily living to maintain their independence. Considering his monthly income, both from personal finances and additional VA resources he may qualify for will be important to establish what options may be available. 
JoAnn29 Nov 2018
Sorry, but his income is not going to cover a 5k a month bill for an AL. This man is not a relative so she has no say in his care. She needs help now. An agency is going to have to take over and set up guardianship. Is the VA going to do that.
Countrymouse Nov 2018
It depends how involved you want to get.

So, essentially you've bought a house with a sitting tenant in it. As an aside, do you plan to live in this house, or do you aim to let it to a more suitable new tenant?

It would be reasonable and kind enough to call APS and bring it to their attention that an 80 year old man with no visible family support (yes?) is failing to thrive and ask them to check him out. But unless he's at clear, serious risk they're unlikely to do a lot.

Is he clearly at risk?

If you're happy to get more closely involved, you can speak to the gentleman and ask his permission to request a care needs assessment. Others will know if you should go through the VA for this? (anyone?) - or contact your Area Agency on Aging for advice.

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JoAnn29 Nov 2018
In your profile you say the "aristocrat" will take care of him, who do u mean?

If this man has no family, you need to contact APS/Office of Aging. (Where I live they r one and the same). Explain he has no family. You are just his landlord. If they find the man can no longer care for himself, they will take over. If no family, he will become a ward of the state and placed in a NH. His SS will be used for offsetting the cost of his care and Medicaid will pick up the rest. If u get nowhere with APS call the health department.

I would not get anymore involved than being the landlord. If you are close by, check on him, make sure he has food etc but make APS take control. If you have left food, make APS aware that if you hadn't, he would have nothing. They have to know he didn't buy it. Tell them there is a lease and its up such and such a time. That you have plans for the house. Don't allow them to use you.

JoAnn29 Nov 2018
Bilky, were u able to get APS involved?

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