My mom is 76 and in a senior living apartment. The workers there help her lots. She now has about 5% mobility. I need some suggestions.

She uses an electric scooter provided by her insurance. She keeps falling off the scooter and needs firemen to come get her up. I cannot physically transport her to dr. appointments anymore. I am 57 and have my own medical conditions (many). My mom is always playing the guilt card that she has "a daughter" (I'm an only child), and she doesn't understand why I can't do everything for her. Why do I talk about hiring medical transportation for dr. appts? Why do I talk about hiring home care for her?

Why do I complain about needing to catch her from falling every time I try to transport her. I have 3 bulging discs and sciatica problems. She cannot get to the bathroom anymore because she can't move. So she pees all day long in 1 depend. Her apartment smell urine so bad it gags me. She has no circulation in her feet because she has no movement and her feet are almost black. She hides information from the doctors, saying she can take care of herself and uses her walker for exercise, and none of that is true. She is so afraid of me moving her to a NH, but that is where she needs to be. I need a support group because I'm going crazy over all this. I have POA, but I need information on how nursing homes work. I need information on medical transportation to her dr appts. I have a hard time finding all this in my area. Guess I just need to vent.