I’m a caregiver who has lost all motivation to do anything. When not caring for my mom I find myself sleeping or staring at the tv.

I am currently dealing with two illnesses. Yes it was the stress, I'm sure. I don't feel like cleaning the house, and the little time that I do have I just sit in front of the computer or go on Netflix. I have to keep reminding myself to breathe because I find myself holding my breath a lot. Take a much time as you need to relax - every little bit helps.

You're not lazy. It sounds completely normal. You sound like you are just getting burned out. We only have so much energy to give before we have to rest. Sometimes it's good to just relax and watch tv or read mindless fluff , etc. just to kind of decompress from the caregiving role for awhile.

Hugs, take care of yourself.

Join the crowd. I think there are others who feel the same way. I know I have my days...For sure you are not lazy - more probably burnt out.

More info would be helpful. What are your mother's health issues, are you living with her or her with you, what was life with your mother like in both your earlier years, how long you have been care giving - formally and informally?

I really identify with Riverdale's "I just desperately want to feel unburdened."

Me too. ((((((hugs)))))

Is this normal for you? - I assume not, because you say you have lost all motivation. So I guess you used to have some. How long have you been your mother's caregiver, and what was your life like before?

It is stress. I am sick for the second time in a month. Add that to crippling anxiety I feel. Today being sick and anxious I am not able to do anything. I can't imagine a different way of life yet long for one. My mother frustrates me but I feel once she passes I will mourn that and enter into a life situation that will feel hopeless for what I should have said yet can't bring myself to. It is also difficult as her past normal is no longer there. There are other factors for me such as an unrelated impending law suit. I just desperately want to feel unburdened. When this wave overcomes I am totally useless. Can't even fold some clean laundry. I totally understand your feelings. I will try to overcome this today and hope my day tomorrow improves however slightly. I can only sympathize with you as I feel worthless.

Could you go for a walk? I am not as productive during my caregiving "down time" as I would like, but at least a quick walk makes me feel as if I have done something positive for myself. (Unlike say, TV -- maybe it's just me but it seems like whenever I actually have the time to channel surf a bit, there is absolutely nothing on! When did the Travel Channel become all dubious "haunted" shows?!)

It is normal.