My mum recently went into a nursing home and stopped speaking after being there for 2 days. She wanted to come home for the first 2 days and then stopped speaking for almost 2 months. The other day l went to see her and she started to speak again and said to me she wants to go home and had everything out ready to go.
She asked me to pull out some money so she could go out but l think it’s still a bit early to take her out and she really plays up with me and always got her way. I don’t want to take her out I’m not strong enough and her house is up for sale because the nursing home want a large amount of money for the Rad. I have most of her plants over my place and I’m scared she is going to recognise them, Is this normal for Dementia to start speaking again I’m a little confused. I cannot look after her 24/7 like the Hospital said it’s too hard and when she came home she was not eating and didn’t want to shower and had a UtI infection twice. That is when I decided she had to go into a nursing home.She was transferred from hospital straight into the nursing home and she is constantly taking sugar from the tables and drinking the milk from the dining tables and annoying all the residents. I would appreciate any advice, thank you 🙏
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Not as simple a choice as you'd think.
Go to the party anyway. If you can get your mother to join in the spirit of the thing on the day, great; if not, you can still contribute to everybody else's enjoyment.
It's got to be better than the other, surely. Especially as you can always reschedule that.
It takes 2-3 week before they get used to new surroundings, and the fact that she's talking again suggests that delirium is passing and she is getting back to baseline.
I wouldn't take her home, or anywhere else until she stops asking to go home. Let her get used to her surroundings until she starts thinking of that place as home.
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Nothing in dementia is "normal." The brain is so powerful and so complicated, how can anyone predict in any detail what one person will experience when it's begun to malfunction?
I really shouldn't take her out of the nursing home if I were you. The disruption is not good for people who are already disoriented and upset. Why not ask the NH if it would be okay to bring one or two of her plants, potted up, to decorate her room?