My dad keeps running away paranoid he’s got a medical emergency due to chronic pain and I can’t chase him bc I have toddlers. What can I do?

Have you considered putting locks on the doors so he can’t get out? I worry that when your kids see grandpa taking off, they will too. Contact the National Autism Association for some ideas on how you can prevent Dad from taking off. They have access to window/door locks, alarms, etc. and can make suggestions on how you can keep Dad safe.

Also, have you checked if a facility would accept Dad Medicaid Pending? When my mom went to a nursing home, they did all the work and all the filing of forms. She was accepted within 4 months.

What paperwork have you not been able to provide?

There are advocates out there who can help you with the paperwork nightmare of applying for Medicaid. An elder care attorney will give you a free consultation and LOTS of useful information. I went to one myself a few years ago and I can't begin to tell you how helpful he was. Be sure to Google 'elder care attorneys' and/or 'assistance with applying for Medicaid.'

I really feel for you, having two small children and a dad living with you with such serious issues. It's scary and you must feel terribly frightened. Sending you a big hug and lots of prayers that you can successfully navigate finding the right care for your dear dad.