How to influence a disabled parent to mind their health and avoid dangerous activities?
My father is disabled (RightEye: 0 vision LeftEye:V.Poor) uses dangerous tools, and doesn't listen to advise warning him for his own safety. (e.g. wood drilling) they do to prove their ability? Father: 66 Years old
We acquired some chain mail gloves, I think used by butchers using an electric meat saw. If your father's issues are about tools, that might help.
Does he have friends with the same hobbies? He might actually get interested in talking through safety devices. My DH is a retired engineer who used to work building devices for people with disabilities, and it is a genuinely interesting area. Your father is quite young, so he may be fairly sharp and able to see the need to get things set up for the future. Solving the problem intelligently might be a better approach than 'don't'. If nothing else, it will focus his attention on safety.
I have done a fair amount of work with organisations for the blind. People with very very low vision can use computers with special screens etc. Putting him in touch with an organisation that knows all that stuff might help in general, and also let him research this for himself.
Often you can't. Just like as a child Mom or Dad told you not to: climb that tree..that you later fell out of. smoke cigarettes...a habit you tried hard to break. date that guy that they did not approve of..that later turned out to be a jerk.
Sometimes it takes what is known as a "catastrophic event" that will finely get the point across that doing "X" is dangerous. Driving is a number 1 concern but it can be using any type of machinery. And do keep in mind that accidents happen to all people young and old. Is this something that can be put on hold and he can do when there is someone there to observe? Or at least "evaluate" how he is doing. And while you are evaluating what he is doing do not say a word...let him forget you are there so you can see what he does when no one is around. Are there other things that he does that is of a concern? Is he on any medications that might make what he is doing "unsafe"? I know when I became concerned about my Husbands driving I told him that he could not drive while he was taking a particular medication and that seemed to quell the desire to drive for a while then I had to repeat the "doctors orders" and I would do so while he was taking his medication (a vitamin pill)
Just like a parent you can not bubble wrap a child to protect them same goes for an adult child wanting to protect the parent. But you can try to make things as safe as possible but accidents do happen. If you are not around all the time video cameras might help in assessing the situation and if an emergency does arise you will know about it.
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Does he have friends with the same hobbies? He might actually get interested in talking through safety devices. My DH is a retired engineer who used to work building devices for people with disabilities, and it is a genuinely interesting area. Your father is quite young, so he may be fairly sharp and able to see the need to get things set up for the future. Solving the problem intelligently might be a better approach than 'don't'. If nothing else, it will focus his attention on safety.
I have done a fair amount of work with organisations for the blind. People with very very low vision can use computers with special screens etc. Putting him in touch with an organisation that knows all that stuff might help in general, and also let him research this for himself.
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Just like as a child Mom or Dad told you not to:
climb that tree..that you later fell out of.
smoke cigarettes...a habit you tried hard to break.
date that guy that they did not approve of..that later turned out to be a jerk.
Sometimes it takes what is known as a "catastrophic event" that will finely get the point across that doing "X" is dangerous. Driving is a number 1 concern but it can be using any type of machinery. And do keep in mind that accidents happen to all people young and old. Is this something that can be put on hold and he can do when there is someone there to observe? Or at least "evaluate" how he is doing. And while you are evaluating what he is doing do not say a word...let him forget you are there so you can see what he does when no one is around.
Are there other things that he does that is of a concern?
Is he on any medications that might make what he is doing "unsafe"? I know when I became concerned about my Husbands driving I told him that he could not drive while he was taking a particular medication and that seemed to quell the desire to drive for a while then I had to repeat the "doctors orders" and I would do so while he was taking his medication (a vitamin pill)
Just like a parent you can not bubble wrap a child to protect them same goes for an adult child wanting to protect the parent. But you can try to make things as safe as possible but accidents do happen.
If you are not around all the time video cameras might help in assessing the situation and if an emergency does arise you will know about it.