Should I enforce my POA? My father’s well being isn’t being considered.

My mom is caring for my dad while I have HCPOA, Durable POA & financial POA... the predicament is my mother is is fraught over this and is not allowing me to see my father. She threatens to call the sheriff if I come in the property. My mother wants a copy of all the paperwork & I won’t give it to her because she’ll tear it up. My father has dementia and two years ago (when my dad & I did the POA’s) it was mild. My mother was trying to get my father declared incompetent so she could have complete control over all his affairs/life. Keep in mind my mother is very narcissistic. My dad & I decided to draw up the POA’s and see an attorney because my mother was threatening to call the police on me (I was spending the week with them so I could take my dad to his cancer treatments/dr appts. while my mother babysat my brothers two girls.... keep in mind I live in Louisiana and came back on weekends to see my family) I had to excersie my FMLA in order to help my mother take care of my father during the cancer treatment. So to fast forward my mother after threatening to call the police on me and telling my father he was incompetent we went to the social worker at cancer center and explained the situation & she helped us come to a decision for my father to come back to Louisiana with me and finish his treatments, she told him he was of sound mind and was able to make his own decisions. So, my dad& I took off to finish our journey fighting his cancer. One week later I get a letter in the mail from an attorney my mother hired telling me to produce documents because my mother was suing me in civil court and criminal court. Needless to say I took the letter to an attorney and it’s unethical to ask for information on a civil case and use it again/against the same person in a criminal case. Needless to say that was dropped. Then one month later my father gets divorce papers served to him, from my mother while he’s trying to battle cancer. Keep in mind there’s been nasty text messages sent to him from my mother and brother. (I have screenshots of all the nasty texts). It’s gets so out of hand the verbal abuse via text message I call APS in Louisiana and they come out and file a report. Fast forward two months at the end of August my dad goes in for a PET scan & guess what! No sign of the cancer, I even bring the PET to his ENT at the VA and she says it’s gone too! Great news my dad tells my mother and BOOM she shows up and brings him back to Alabama. From here it really gets bad.... all his records were transferred back to AL so his cancer dr there could see it & guess what they still are treating him weekly for

cancer... fast forward one year the cancer is gone says the AL cancer dr.

Now, my dads being treated for skin cancer on his right hand. Hers this story....two years ago when he was staying with me fir cancer treatments I took him to the VA to establish care with dr’s here. The VA dermatologist said he needed two growths removed before they embeddedto deeply and it spreads. So, as I’m in the process of making the appts. my dad has headed back to AL. I have the Va Call my mother about this and they were told his AL dermatologist is just freezing it! Low and behold now it’s spread and he’s being treated for it now. My concern is all his AL dr’s just treating his condition with band aids because he’s a disabled Vet and all medical is paid. My mother’s refusing me access to my dad, takes his phone, deletes numbers and verbally abuses him. I guess my question is “WHEN IS ENOUGH, ENOUGH & You envoke the POA’s that you have, to protect your loved one?”. Keep in mind my parents live together... I’m headed to al to have the docs recorded legally. When I show up to see my father do I ask for police escort or do I just go and then have my mother cal the sheriff and then show them the paperwork I have? Advice is greatly appreciated. This is a great group and it’s made me feel “I’m not the only one, this is happening too”