Mom keeps calling over and over if I don't answer. How do I deal with this?
How do I deal with this? Anyone else having this experience? She does it every time caregiver is off doing something else in the house. It's driving me nuts! Even if I tell her not to call, she still does.........
I'd keep in touch with the caregiver. Tell her that if there's a real emergency, she should call you. Block her number for a day or two. You can always unblock it. Perhaps her phone can 'go missing' for a week or so?
I do text the caregiver to let her know mom is calling incessantly. She also does it to my brother. I have blocked her number for a few hours while out and about just to not be disturbed. She has no cell phone only a LAN line so that is where she calls from.
You don't give much info in your profile. Does she have Dementia/ALZ? If so, telling her may be forgotten five minutes later. All I can say is put the answering machine on and turn down the volume. Tell Mom that you have things to do and she can't be calling you all the time. That from now on, her messages will go to VM and you will get back to her when you can. If its your cell, block her. I have an android and if the person is not in my contacts, the call goes to VM where I can listen and delete. Tell Mom the aide is there for her. She needs to use her. Inform the aide, unless its an emergency, you rather not have calls from Mom.
I don't do needy well. When I would go on vacation, I just went. Mom knew I was going but never did I call when I got there or when I got home. A while before my Mom was diagnosed with Dementia, I went on vacation. Told her I was going, she asked that I call when I got there. I think I called when I got home. The next morning she calls to tell me she is coming over. I was still in bed and told her that. (I am not a morning person, never was) Told her I would see her later. Yes, I felt guilty later. Had a woman from Church tell me Mom couldn't wait for me to get home. This was very out of character for my Mom. Dad was gone but she had a social life, Church was a big part of it. Friends she did things with. It was a sign, Dementia setting in and I was the only child near by.
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Block her number for a day or two. You can always unblock it.
Perhaps her phone can 'go missing' for a week or so?
Thank you so much for the input!
I don't do needy well. When I would go on vacation, I just went. Mom knew I was going but never did I call when I got there or when I got home. A while before my Mom was diagnosed with Dementia, I went on vacation. Told her I was going, she asked that I call when I got there. I think I called when I got home. The next morning she calls to tell me she is coming over. I was still in bed and told her that. (I am not a morning person, never was) Told her I would see her later. Yes, I felt guilty later. Had a woman from Church tell me Mom couldn't wait for me to get home. This was very out of character for my Mom. Dad was gone but she had a social life, Church was a big part of it. Friends she did things with. It was a sign, Dementia setting in and I was the only child near by.
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