I was taking care of my neighbor whose wife passed away 5 years ago, and did not like being alone. He insisted that I stay at his house basically 24/7 and insisted that my husband and I go out to eat with him daily (although we insisted on staying home to eat), we always used coupons and got 2 for 1's (That way we kept the expenses very low - actually cheaper than if he were to go by himself - which he refused to do....) we now have a situation, he passed away while at the cancer center (1st day there). Him and I were going to take care of "the business" after he returned, so that his daughter couldn't leave me out of stuff.... "too late"..... his daughter has been quite jealous of me and has now turned into this wicked person.... "EVERYONE" knew I was supposed to get his dog, and he had a hand written addition to his trust, but I have a funny feeling it was shredded, and she literally stole the she dog from me...... this whole situation has just turned me into a basket case. So do I bill for services rendered (basically extending his life 5 years) or not?
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I think you have to chalk up to lesson learned.
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Maybe it is the family dog, sentimental to the daughter?
Did he pay for the dinners out for all three of you? That was your payment.
If you did not like his company, and expected payment, you should have made arrangements weekly, in advance.
Do not bill for anything and create more hard feelings, imo.
You still have your husband, right? Really, after 24/7 at the neighbor's house?
Not accusing you, just some things to think about. Caregiving a neighbor is the closest thing to "no good deed goes unpunished", in my experience.
I agree about the "no good deed goes unpunished", except my heart has been ripped out and part of my soul has a huge hole, and all she did was turn and made it worse. I did not ask to be his companion/caregiver, he basically quilted me into being there, and after a while I gave in, and he became (in my eyes) family....
I have respected his wishes and feel his family turned on me... in no way did we use or abuse him, but we did extend his life, and I feel his family should be grateful not hateful. That is why my mom and husband want to send a bill, whether it's paid or not, it puts a bug in the trust..... and they are trying to look out for me....
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