Hospital trying to figure out discharge plan and Dad's trying to get me to help him go home. Any advice?

My dad got a sore that turned into a bad wound. He finally went to doctor and they sent a wound nurse. She convinced my dad who hates hospitals to go get care. My dad picked the hospital he does like and went. I went to see him Sunday. The wound is to the bone right above his butt. It's the most horrible thing I have ever seen. They are treating him. I'm so grateful. They are giving him antibiotics. So now he is trying to figure out how to get home.

The one agency can train me to do the IV bag replacement but they want my guarantee I will be there 24/7 or close 30 mins away. (I live in Laramie 100miles away) I explained I can take some time off but not 4-6 weeks. They cannot train his one caregiver bc of the rules. They made it very clear someone needs to be there at night when it goes off from an error or if it gets ripped out he could bleed out.

They won't take him on for wound in-home care, unless I am there to do the IV. I'm in contact with case manager at hospital, case manager with his disability, my dad refuses to go to a rehab/nursing facility knows he can do this at home. I've told him I can't be there for that amount of time, what if you go to rehab for part if it? No he doesn't like that.

I said when I tell them I will be there, I'm not lying and getting in trouble if something happens, plus I don't want anything to happen. He thinks we are making too big a deal, he will find more help and an RN to do IV. I'm like you haven't found help for years and now you can? He needs to go home to handle things. I said I can help with those things. He doesn't like that he can't leave the rehab place, doesn't like he can't smoke.

I told him if this infection gets worse you could die. He knows and promises me he is not going to let it get bad. Ha, I tell him you have a wound on your back the size of a fist but now you know better? He will check himself into the rehab if this doesn't work. So he wants me to lie to this agency so he can work the loophole to go home.

I'm just tired. I love him, want him to get well. It's been so nice to know he is getting care. I'm busy at work. Putting my head in hands. Why does it have to be so hard with some family. Me, I'd go get the care. Him no, wants to do it his way. I talked to his sister, my aunt, she lives 30 miles away and said she can help for a few days. I'm like great but what about the rest of the time? My dad is telling the hospital my brother lives at his house. I said he doesn't. My dad will be mad. Then the hospital tells me the home IV is not as bad as the agency is saying. My head hurts. I am standing firm but am getting worn down.