He is 66, I am 60. He has mild AD. He is physically fit, rides his motorcycle with friends, goes to bible study by himself...
I asked him if he wanted to stay home or go away for a week with me and my sister. He thought about it and said stay home.
Should I leave him?
Thanks - Cat
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He's still leading his normal life, there isn't yet any question about his legal competence, you've asked him and he's expressed what sounds to me like a rational preference - not meaning to be rude! - I should go ahead.
Belt and braces: make sure everything domestic is organised and labelled, tell neighbours and his closest friends that he'll be on his own, make sure somebody's got your contact number in case of emergency. And have a lovely time :)
PS I think I might ask him to keep off the bike, just to please you, just for this week. There is such a thing as asking for trouble...
If he is able to ride a motorcycle he is able to manage for a week.
I always make homemade frozen dinners and stock healthy foods so I know my love is at least eating healthy and he is perfectly healthy and capable. But I feel better knowing he is or could.
Second reaction is...why does he want to stay home? Is it because unfamiliar places are starting to bother him? That he knows his way around your neighborhood but might get lost going someplace else? Meeting people he knows is alright but meeting people he does not know is confusing or possibly embarrassing to him? Or is it simply he does not want to go where you are going or be with the people you are going to be with?
Third gut reaction....You are also questioning his ability and are nervous at the prospect of him staying by himself where you can not "monitor" where he is and what he does. (says he is going to bible study, should be home at 4 but does not get home until 5..was he lost or just talking)
And final..if you did not have doubts about this you would not have posted the question.
Maybe I am way off base in your case but I am in the "better safe than sorry" camp.