I had been working 40 hrs wkly while trying 2 keep eye on her. My Uncle & Aunt live very close 2 her also & sometimes check in on her off & on. They both know I moved back home after 30+ yrs of just visiting her while raising family. They both knew ahead of time I only moved home 2 take care of her as long as possible & keep her in her own house also. They said they were also aware that when I had 2 stop working & take care of her full time that WE would figure out a how much 2 pay me 2 do this full time. She had a small TIA 1st of Feb. Now her Short term is even Shorter & we have a Caregiver/Therapy Home Care person coming out 2 Evaluate her even more. So My question is I'll Be taking care of her in her home where I grew up & live in my small bedroom with everything I own when I moved here & have access 2 home also because I'm doing almost everything 4 here 24/7 now. She is very stubborn & doesn't like help. Which I know & understand. I drive her in her car most of time & help with meds & Groceries & Cooking & House Cleaning etc.. coz she's not safe with stove & trips herself when vacuuming etc.. She's using a walker now also. I want 2 Be Paid a fair wage & I have 2 find my own insurance to take care of myself also... I've see & heard about how much. From $15 - $25 +... Plus get a lawyers advice. My Uncle mentioned paying rent maybe also. I never did when I was working. So I'm getting nerves & wonder if they'll B helpful with doing what's Best 4 Mom & NOT double guess what I'm doing in home with her. They said they know it would cost her lots if I wasn't with her. I'm NOT out 2 get rich BUT I do need 2 B paid a Reasonable price 2 live on. She does have property & the means 2 pay Me 4 My Caregiving. I think I might qualify 4 Oregon Health Care 4 my Issuance if I don't make 2 much maybe? So Many Questions I need 2 find out about yet. It' could B yrs I'll B doing it also maybe?? Any Help & Suggestions I'd Appreciate from all of U that live in home while caregiving 4 them & getting paid & Not working outside of home either with your own insurance. Thank You All.
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Why does your Uncle have a say in what you do? And NO! you should not pay rent. But i do suggest that you have a few back ups and a weekend person who can let you have some time to your self. I took care of my parent and tried to work at the same time with a CG who could only work about 20 hours per week. for the first couple of years. I ran my self ragged trying to keep up with everything and with no help from siblings. I didnt pay myself then and i felt taken advantage of by my siblings (future heirs). So yes you will deserve to be paid. CG for a parent is a thankless job and everyone will be sympathetic but in the end are glad that it is you and not them that are doing the work. Good Luck!