Mom's dementia has advanced fast. She now needs 24/7 caregivers to be sure she is safe because she forgets where she is (at home) and hear noises. The challenge is that I think all is fine and then she calls and asks me something we talked about 2 hours before or a day before. The caregivers tell her what has happened but she doesn't believe them. Sometimes she doesn't believe me. I have been saying you just forgot. How else can I phrase something so that she can understand that what she thinks isn't real? Or is that possibility gone? And if so, what is the best comeback?
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She will call you and ask you to repeat what you’ve just told her 2 minutes or 2 days ago. There is no “comeback” and certainly no trying to convince her that her delusions aren’t true. It’s frustrating for both of you. She isn’t doing this to annoy or frustrate you. Re-explain to her what she’s asking even if it’s 10 times in an hour. This is a cruel disease. The best we can do is handle it one day, one hour at a time.