My 78 year old grandmother is not physically abusive but she has a “type A” personality. She would come over to my house (she lives next door) and scream at me telling me to get up from bed. She would also scream at me that I am a bad mother to my toddler and that she will call CPS so that my son will be taken away from me and will go to an orphanage. She also constantly asks me if I am taking my anxiety medications and threatens that if I am not she will make sure I will be locked up in a psychiatric ward for the rest of my life. She says all these things as well as screaming at me that my kid NEEDS A NEW DIAPER because once or twice she came over and he took his own diaper off. My son is potty training and does not always require a diaper he is learning to use the toilet. You get the point, she is extremely verbally abusive and threatens me more than several times a week for a half hour or more at a time.
I don’t let her in the house my husband let’s her in.
Well today was my last straw. I asked her politely to leave MANY times, but today I called the cops on her. The cops told me they would try to talk to her and tell her to not go to my house anymore. After they talk to me and her they tell me the only way to get her to leave me and my family alone is to get a restraining order. Or just not let her in the house.
I will also add this to my story, my grandfather I am estranged from also currently lives with her. I am estranged from him because he broke my wrist when I was 20 years old. He broke my wrist because “I was laughing too loudly at a YouTube video.” I quit university because I was angry and using a pen or computer was painful. My grandma and mom told me to shut the f up about the whole broken wrist and not press charges.
My family is obviously full of narcissist abusers.
Supposedly my grandparents are moving two hours away to their vacation home next year.
What I am really asking for here is just some advice. And also I need to get this off my chest. Thank you any constructive advice is appreciated.
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Sorry, your husband need to get some backbone. My husband woukd have never let anyone talk to me that way. You are paying rent, your home. You should not have to "owe" anyone anything. Hell of a way to live ur life. How do you get along with your Dad. Is it possible to live near him? I would move as far away as you can. Mom seems to be no help.
I will most likely change the locks thank you.
if you don’t already have one, put a security screen door, front and back
also, where are your parents in this?
I usually try my best to not interact with my grandparents. They feel guilty about my grandfather breaking my wrist 9 years ago. They bought me a Honda Fit and after that my grandmother made it seem like I had to kiss her ass because they helped me get a car.
At at the moment I am just surviving and saving up my money so my husband child and I can move out to a neighborhood we deem safe. We lived in very ghetto areas before and I am milking this situation till I can afford a small house of my own.
Worst comes to to worst I will find a trailer and go back to living in trailer parks with my family. I am angry about the past and present abuse but I know how to survive.
I greatly appreciate you mentioning your concern for my sons safety. I have so far made sure they have not “groomed” my toddler to hate me. If anything he dislikes them because they have no patience with my son and I am a good mother so my son has no reason to choose them over me. I see the way they creepily interact with my son and I have definitely sensed danger in the way lose their tempers with my son. I am going to be a better mother and make sure their manipulative, abusive behavior never affects my son. I’m not ever going to answer the door if my grandmother comes to the door. Nor will I ever spend time with them. If she continues to come to my house and verbally threaten me I will call the cops again. If she won’t stop threatening and harassing my family I will just have to move. I am planning on moving in two years and my grandmother supposedly is moving to her vacation home in a year so I just need to avoid them. Or move completely if the situation continues to be bad.