My husband is a patient with Parkinson's disease with dementia. My question is how to handle his anger issues?

If all other routes have been blocked..
Next time he becomes violent you need to call 911 or whatever the emergency number in your area is.
Tell them you feel threatened and that he may do you harm.
This should get a transport to the hospital. There you will state that you do not feel safe with him at home.
With luck medication can help control the outbursts.
You need to take care of you!
Yes the Social Worker says that you may need to leave your home...did they give you the answer as to who will care for him when you leave? Where you will go when you leave? Not much help if I can put my two cents in.
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Have you considered asking his doctor about a trial of a small dose of a mild antidepressant or tranquilizing medication?

You must take good care of yourself to be able to continue caring for him.

Hoping you find something that helps.........

You must talk to his doctor about this change in his behavior! Meds can help!

Regarding his assessment, did you let them know That he’s emotionally unstable and has been threatening?

Did the SW tell you how to make sure he is safe if you leave and that you could be in serious trouble for leaving him alone?

When I read your post, I just got pizzed. Leave, that is such a stupid response to give in these situations. I would request a more mature SW that has the ability to actually help.

You have probably tried this, but when he starts in, agree, get mad at the disease with him. Cuss it, degrade it, and then stop him from attacking you by saying I am angry too, I didn't do this to you and you are not going through this alone, it effects us all that you have this. Be mad DH, but STOP taking it out on me. I often think that men handle things so much differently than women and they don't even realize that they are being raginrhoids until we speak up. They handle fear so much poorer than women and we can't wrap our minds around the reactions.

Is there any place locally that you can get a volunteer sitter? Someone to come talk to him while you go out? You matter and need to be cared for during all of this as well. Please find a way to get out and have time to yourself.

Next time he gets verbally violent, call 911 and tell them you need help he is having some kind of fit and you are scared he will hurt you. I know that will be so difficult to do, but you can't continue to live under his tyrannical behavior. You will feel better knowing he is getting professional help.

Hugs and more hugs.

We went through something similar with pops which eventually ended up with him punching me in the face several times and my adult sons having to step in and pull him off of me. He's nearly 6ft tall and 180 pounds, I'm only 5ft tall so I'm no match for him when he gets physical. We were strongly considering placing him in a care home but tried a new neurologist who diagnosed his Pseudo Bulbar Affect and gave him medication to help control with his mood swings. He can still be very mean now and then but no more violence or screaming outbursts. Maybe if you can get him to a Neurologist they can help. Sometimes the medication route takes a lot of trial and error but it's worth it. If the medication had not worked for pop we had been told that we must call the police during one of his rages and have them take him to Psyche in order for him to get emergency inpatient care.

Arden Courts is a 100% memory care provider and is a community with experienced dementia experts. I can assure you that my response is not a personal opinion as it is a professional suggestion.

It sounds to me that his PDD is accompanied by Lewy Bodies Dementia (LBD). I suggest bringing this to his neurologist's attention. Has he had a brain scan? This will confirm if it is LBD.

Knowing which EXACT form of dementia changes so much in how we interact with that person. I encourage you to look up LBD and see if the behaviors are familiar.

But always remember that your loved one isn't acting this way on purpose. Try not to get angry or upset or take it personally.

Speak calmly and softly to the person.

If the behavior is aggressive, back away. Give your loved one space. Then calmly approach him or her. Don't argue.

Consider the potential cause of the behavior. Is your loved one tired, hungry, in pain, frustrated, lonely, bored? Could it be a side effect of medication?

Respond to the emotion, not the behavior. Avoid trying to reason with the patient, this may often lead to frustration for both of you, because he may be unable to follow lengthy explanations.

Having a Lewy Body diagnosis may change the guidelines for admission in some places bc it is a high functioning form of dementia but with behavioral disturbances (early). Make sure to involve his neuro and be honest of your fears and concerns regarding his behavior. He may have a better chance of having him placed somewhere bc he knows LBD.

he needs a combined anxiety/depression medication Insist on it from your doctor
i think moving out is a good idea. Could you live with your son and visit your husband during the day

Wait, has he been this evil for the past 17 years? If so, you are a saint! If this is fairly recent, it could be Lewis Body Dementia setting it. It goes with Parkinson’s. He needs to be seen by his Doctor to know for sure. But there are medicines to calm him down, either way. If he won’t take them, crush them and hide them in his food, whatever you need to do.

We are here to talk anytime, sending hugs from Florida